Ebon Bloom Death Doula

06/26/2026

THOUGHT THURSDAY:

Why do we wait to say the most beautiful things? ✨

​We gather to shower people with gifts and stories when they’re about to get married, or when they’re expecting a baby. We call them showers because they are a literal downpour of community love at a major life threshold.

However, ​there is another profound threshold we all face ... death ... and historically, we’ve saved our best stories, our tears of gratitude, and our deepest praise for the funeral, after someone has already gone.

But, ​what if we changed that?

A "Death Shower", sometimes called a living funeral or a gathering of honor, flips the narrative. It’s an intentional, beautifully curated space where a loved one who is nearing the end of their journey is showered with their favorite flowers while they can still smell them. ​It’s an evening of sitting around a candlelit table, drinking good wine, laughing over old photos, and saying out loud: “This is exactly how you changed my life.”

It’s not about ignoring the grief; it’s about enveloping the person in a warm blanket of their own legacy. "Showering" them with love as you would at any other threshold. It gives the dying individual profound peace and connection, and it gives the community a chance to leave nothing unsaid.

​💭 Let's talk in the comments: If you could gather your favorite people together for a "shower" of stories and connection, what kind of atmosphere would you want to create? Intimate and quiet, or a loud, celebratory feast?

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06/25/2026

🖤 WONDERING WEDNESDAY:

Grief has a curious habit of collecting dust.

The box of photographs stays unopened. The voice message remains unheard. The story goes untold one more day.

We often imagine that mourning requires a grand gesture, when sometimes it only asks for five quiet minutes and a little courage.

Today I'm wondering:
✨ What is one grief task you've been meaning to do, and what has kept you from doing it?

My curiosity is in part to find the gaps that need to be filled during moments of threshold, work and transformation.

Sometimes naming the barrier is the first step through it.
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Unsure who gets credit for the original meme posted here; but thank you.

06/24/2026

TIP TUESDAY:

Sometimes the greatest gift is helping someone remain themselves until the end.

06/23/2026

MOURNING MONDAY:

06/22/2026

As June winds down, I keep returning to this image. It reminds me of the three pillars we’ve been exploring this month: Witnessing, Threshold tending, and Ceremony. Each one distinct, like the rocks.
Each one is shaped by the same current.

In end‑of‑life care, these aren’t separate tasks. They’re a flow as a way of being with someone through change, uncertainty, and the softening edges of what was.

Witnessing opens the space. Threshold work steadies the crossing. Ceremony gathers the meaning.

This week, I’m sharing how these three move together;
how they form a continuum of presence so no one has to walk the water alone, if they have the right person by their side.

06/22/2026

SHARING SUNDAY: Happy Father's Day

Father’s Day can bring many feelings.

For some, it is a day of laughter, gratitude, and cherished memories. For others, it may hold longing, grief, unanswered questions, or love for someone who is no longer physically here.

Today, I am sending love to every father, grandfather, father figure, and to everyone whose heart is remembering someone special.

May you feel the love that remains—the kind that reaches beyond time, distance, and even the physical world. 🤍

Happy Father’s Day!

06/20/2026

Ceremony lives in the small ways we tend the world, the way we hold what’s precious,
pause long enough to breathe it in, and let memory rise gently through our hands.

Some of what we carry was taught to us, some of it was given, some of it remains long after the person is gone.

As I close this week of ceremony, I’m honoring the quiet gestures that shaped me; the ones that taught me how to pause, how to notice, how to tend what matters.

Ceremony is a way of saying:
I remember.
And I’m still listening.✦

06/20/2026

🖤 SILLY SATURDAY:

🖤Death doula small talk is a special kind of endurance event.

Stranger: "Any fun plans for the weekend?"

Me: "Just sitting vigil while someone transitions, supporting a family through anticipatory grief, and discussing biodegradable burial options."

Me, walking away: "At least I didn't make that awkward."

Some people get to answer with "brunch," "yard work," or "a hike with the dog.". Some of us answer with "well, death, actually."

Nothing clears a dog park conversation quite like casually mentioning you spent your morning helping someone die peacefully.

The funny thing is, death doulas spend all day talking about the one thing everyone has in common... and somehow we're still the weird ones. 💀

Tell us, what's the funniest, strangest, or most uncomfortable reaction you've gotten when someone asked what you do for a living?

👇 Bonus points if they immediately remembered they had somewhere else to be.💀☠️




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06/20/2026

🖤 FACT FRIDAY:

Dying is often more than a single event. Many professionals recognize several dimensions of dying that can occur before physical death itself.

As a person approaches the end of life, they may experience social death, where they begin withdrawing from social roles and interactions.

Some may also experience psychological changes, as their focus shifts inward and aspects of their former identity begin to soften or change.

These transitions can be difficult for loved ones to witness because they often feel like a series of small goodbyes before the final one.

Understanding these changes doesn't remove the heartbreak, but it can help us respond with greater compassion, patience, and presence.

Death is not only about the moment life ends. It is also about the many thresholds crossed along the way.

✨ Knowledge reduces fear.
✨ Presence creates comfort.
✨ Love remains.




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06/19/2026

THOUGHT THURSDAY:

This is Men's Mental Health Awareness month and it got me to thinking, men's mental health awareness often gets reduced to statistics, advice, or "check on your friends" messaging. Ebon Bloom shines when it gently invites reflection around grief, vulnerability, and being human.

Who taught men how to mourn? Many men were taught how to carry, provide, and endure. But few were taught how to grieve.

When loss arrives, grief doesn't ask whether you've been given permission to cry, talk, rage, or rest. It simply arrives.

This Men's Mental Health Month, perhaps the question isn't whether men are grieving. Perhaps the question is:
Where were they ever taught what to do with grief once it arrived?

🌑 What is something you wish men were allowed to say out loud about loss?






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