09/01/2026
š ONE YEAR LATER⦠HEREāS THE REAL UPDATE!
A year later, we are STILL friends. Our friendship has grown stronger, and he has become a very important person in my life.
BUT⦠š
šØ HE IS STILL NOT MY MAN.
He has never changed his position about what he wants, and I have never changed my position about what I want either. š
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That is the lesson.
You can care deeply about someone, value the friendship, and still accept that they may not be your romantic person.
You donāt have to become bitter.
You donāt have to convince them.
And you definitely donāt have to compromise yourself.
š Respect their boundaries and yours.
š Process rejection without losing your dignity.
š Donāt assume somebody will eventually ācome around.ā
š Communicate honestly.
š Keep your self-respect.
š Stay open to dating.
Because baby, I am still SINGLE AND MINGLING! ššš½
I believe God has designed my husband just for me, and Iām not changing what I desire because someone I care about wants something different.
Everybody you like is not meant to be your husband, and every connection that doesnāt become a relationship is not a failure.
Sometimes people can have a beautiful place in your life without occupying a position that was never theirs.
And yes, standards can get lonely sometimes. But I would rather wait with my head held high than lower them because I got tired of waiting.
š« Donāt become the side chick.
š« Donāt settle for āalmost.ā
š« Donāt audition for a girlfriend position.
š« Donāt do wife duties during the friendship internship. š
š« Donāt let loneliness make decisions your standards would never approve of.
Donāt let impatience turn your convictions into compromises.
I can love my friend, respect his position, honor mine, and still remain completely available for the man God has for me.
No bitterness.
No hidden agenda.
No imaginary relationship. š
Just friendship, boundaries, maturity, faith, self-respect, and me remaining VERY SINGLE and VERY AVAILABLE for my husband. šš
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š¬ Have you ever been in this position? What did you do?
And if you havenāt, what would you tell someone who is lonely, disappointed, or tempted to lower their standards?
šš½ Drop your advice in the comments. Somebody may need to read it today. ā¤ļøšš½