Abbey H Ives Counseling and Supervision PLLC

Abbey H Ives Counseling and Supervision PLLC I’m a mental health and addiction counselor and supervisor with 10 years of experience.

Most of us expect change to happen much faster than it actually does. We recognize a pattern, decide we want to do somet...
07/28/2026

Most of us expect change to happen much faster than it actually does. We recognize a pattern, decide we want to do something differently, and then get frustrated when it doesn't immediately feel natural.

But that's not how change works.

One of the things I say to almost every client is, "Let me plant a seed."

I like to explain that awareness comes before change.

Many of the patterns we're trying to change, like people-pleasing, overthinking, difficulty setting boundaries, constantly staying busy...have often been practiced for years. They won't disappear overnight.

So, we plant a seed.

We notice the pattern. We become curious instead of critical.
We start making small adjustments.

And over time, that seed grows into something that feels much more natural.

Growth rarely happens all at once. More often, it happens one small moment of awareness at a time.

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Not just slept.Not just took a day off.Not just sat on the couch while thinking about everything you "should" be doing.W...
07/21/2026

Not just slept.
Not just took a day off.
Not just sat on the couch while thinking about everything you "should" be doing.

When was the last time your mind and body both felt at rest?

If you can't remember, you're not alone. For many go-getters, slowing down feels unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. But sometimes that's exactly what we need most.

Sometimes we think what we need is a vacation.But if your mind is still making lists, planning ahead, replaying conversa...
07/14/2026

Sometimes we think what we need is a vacation.

But if your mind is still making lists, planning ahead, replaying conversations, or worrying about what's waiting when you get home, it's hard to actually feel rested.

Rest isn't just about where you are, it's about giving yourself permission to be where you are.

We often think productivity only counts if we're checking something off a list.But peace has value, too.The moments you ...
07/07/2026

We often think productivity only counts if we're checking something off a list.

But peace has value, too.

The moments you spend slowing down, creating space, connecting with people you love, or simply letting yourself breathe aren't wasted time. They're part of building a life that feels sustainable.

Not everything valuable can be measured by how much you accomplished today.

This is one of the busiest weeks of the summer for vacations, so it felt like the perfect time to share this.If you're h...
06/30/2026

This is one of the busiest weeks of the summer for vacations, so it felt like the perfect time to share this.

If you're hoping a vacation will fix burnout, stress, or overwhelm, it can be disappointing when you return home feeling... exactly the same.

I've been there many times. I've spent vacations thinking about everything waiting for me when I got home, the work to catch up on, the endless to-do list, and even feeling guilty for not being more productive while I was away.

Sometimes the answer isn't another vacation.

Sometimes it's learning to let enough be enough. Setting boundaries. Saying no without guilt. Letting go of expectations that were never yours to carry in the first place.

Rest isn't just about changing your scenery, it's about giving yourself permission to slow down.

Self-reliance is often learned, not chosen.
06/23/2026

Self-reliance is often learned, not chosen.

Strength doesn’t mean doing everything alone.If you’re used to being the reliable one, it can feel uncomfortable to lean...
06/16/2026

Strength doesn’t mean doing everything alone.

If you’re used to being the reliable one, it can feel uncomfortable to lean on others. BUT, that discomfort is often where relief starts.

Whatever feels heavy.... work, responsibilities, emotions, or expectations-- you don’t have to carry it all yourself.
06/09/2026

Whatever feels heavy.... work, responsibilities, emotions, or expectations-- you don’t have to carry it all yourself.

Many high-achieving people struggle to ask for help because they’ve learned that competence = safety.Relying on others c...
06/02/2026

Many high-achieving people struggle to ask for help because they’ve learned that competence = safety.
Relying on others can feel risky, unfamiliar, or inefficient — even when it’s necessary.

Independence is a strength...so is knowing when support would actually make things easier.

So many of us learned to measure worth by productivity.This is an invitation to notice what shifts when value isn’t tied...
05/26/2026

So many of us learned to measure worth by productivity.
This is an invitation to notice what shifts when value isn’t tied to output.

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