Therapist Vaj Thoj Cindy

Therapist Vaj Thoj Cindy Mental health therapist•EMDRIA-Certified EMDR Therapist•Certified AutPlay Therapy Provider•Mother•Wife•Sister•Daughter•Human at heart

This is my final training of training season 2026, and it is so worth it!! I am learning all about integrating AutPlay t...
09/04/2026

This is my final training of training season 2026, and it is so worth it!! I am learning all about integrating AutPlay therapy and EMDR therapy to support neurodivergent children, and we just installed positive cognitions. 😄😄😄

And right on top of my Marvel superheroes shirt!

Neurodivergent children aren't always showing dysregulated behaviors because they are overwhelmed or overstimulated. Som...
09/04/2026

Neurodivergent children aren't always showing dysregulated behaviors because they are overwhelmed or overstimulated. Sometimes, these behaviors are actually trauma symptoms.

As a therapist, it's crucial to assess and differentiate each so that your therapy meets the needs of the child.

And as a parent, if you're not sure, take your child to see a trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming therapist so they can get their intervention sooner than later.

I still get spontaneous therapist thoughts that I want to share with my community of followers! Please remember to share...
08/31/2026

I still get spontaneous therapist thoughts that I want to share with my community of followers! Please remember to share it forward to your community, family, and friends as well.

We're doing a fun thing this weekend! Learning to come back and extend it forward!
08/21/2026

We're doing a fun thing this weekend! Learning to come back and extend it forward!

Proud of being one of the 20k!
08/21/2026

Proud of being one of the 20k!

I meet people from all walks of life. I am quite fortunate and blessed to have the opportunity to do that.The discussion...
07/27/2026

I meet people from all walks of life. I am quite fortunate and blessed to have the opportunity to do that.

The discussions of career change come up often, and I see an underlying theme. I see it in my position as a clinical supervisor and have experienced it personally.

The honest truth is, many times, people don't leave a career because they aren't good at it. They leave it because they don't have the proper guidance and support. More importantly, they don't receive it in the way that they need it.

Some fields might require specifics. For example, I do believe that to be a therapist, there is a need for empathy. And in the medical field, you may need to be able to tolerate needles. But outside of these specifics, people are pretty dang capable and competent.

More times than not, they need a supervisor, manager, or mentor who can patiently guide them in the direction they need. One of those areas could also be exploring what accommodations or professional interventions you specifically need to help you fulfill the specifics required of the field you are in.

Next time you are pondering a career change because you have decided that you aren't a good fit, imagine the possibility of having someone support you in the way that you need it. Would this change your decision?

And if you are responsible for supervising, managing, or mentoring someone, take a moment to reflect on yourself and ask, "What supervisee, employee, or mentee would best fit me?"

07/24/2026

SPONTANEOUS THERAPIST THOUGHT OF THE DAY

What if the Hmong people’s metaphorical “siab” meant the “nervous system” in English?

So for example…

“Kuv lub siab lwj tag.” = “My nervous system is completely rotten.”

“Kuv ntxhov ntxhov siab li.” = “My nervous system is chaotic.”

I have spent years of my career finding ways to understand my Hmong people’s use of “siab” when referring to how we feel. When discussing discomfort, the Hmong language is more symbolic, poetic, and metaphorical.

As I have expanded my knowledge and understanding of somatic experiences in mental health and how Eastern culture has shaped concepts of mental health and therapy in the Western hemisphere, I have been more in tuned to the nervous system.

So much of Eastern culture is rooted in the somatic system. Oftentimes, people turn to Hmong shamans for spiritual healing because of a physical feeling.

And we know that emotional pain can become physical pain because we are connected mind, body, and spirit.

“Peb lub siab nyob nrog peb txoj sia. Yog kuv lwj siab ces cuag li kuv txoj sia lwj tag.”

“My nervous system lives with my lifeline. If my nervous system is rotten, it is like my lifeline is also rotten.”

I used to play an icebreaker game with my adolescent clients where we would draw random cards and answer questions. This...
07/12/2026

I used to play an icebreaker game with my adolescent clients where we would draw random cards and answer questions. This gave me an opportunity to learn about them but also for them to learn about the therapist that their parents picked out for them.

One of the random questions that would make everyone uncomfortable was "What do you want written on your tombstone?"

This always generated some giggles, likely because a lot of teenagers don't think about death and dying every day nor do they discuss it openly with adults.

My answer was always "She lived all that she was."

This question was never intended to talk about death. Its focus was always on mindful living: the practice of living with purpose and intention.

When I started my internship, my mother passed away. I was 27 then, and since then, I have had over 10 significant family and extended family members who has passed away.

Each individual left a legacy to be remembered by. Some people's legacy gets honored every year by their loved ones. Some people's legacy has been an agent of change for others. I have also witnessed some people's legacy be one of pain and anger, best forgotten by the ones who survived them.

I believe that everyone needs to be remembered by a life they would be proud to leave behind, and this can only be accomplished by those practices of living with purpose and intention.

Deadbeat might be a harsh word, but in my experience as a therapist, coming to that acceptance for some individuals is w...
07/11/2026

Deadbeat might be a harsh word, but in my experience as a therapist, coming to that acceptance for some individuals is what actually helps them radically accept their abandonment wound so they can give themselves their own love and care.

This post is for my associates. I began clinically supervising again after a 4-year absence. As a clinical supervisor, I...
07/06/2026

This post is for my associates. I began clinically supervising again after a 4-year absence. As a clinical supervisor, I meet with associates 1 to 3 hours per week to work on building their clinical experience, training, and education. I also support them all around with anything that they need support with.

If you’ve ever felt unsure about working with an associate, just know that licensed clinicians were all associates, interns, or trainees once. My associates are smart, legal, ethical, and amazingly competent. They work hard, and they are dedicated to their clients. They also have the most updated information from the field.

I encourage you give it a go. If it’s not a fit, it’s not a fit. But you might also get to work with a wonderful therapist and help them grow too.

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