The Nickel Jar

The Nickel Jar Hi & welcome! I’m Susan - wife, mom of 2, & special needs advocate finding grace & laughter in the chaos. Hi there! I’m the 4th of 5 kids, all with “S” names.

The Nickel Jar is where I share moments, lessons, & life – the beautiful, messy, & everything in between. I’m Susan, and I am the voice behind The Nickel Jar. Why?! I guess my parents thought it would be cute… or confusing?! (And since I know you’re dying to know — in birth order → Stevan, Sandra, Scott, Susan, Stuart.) These days, I’m a wife and mom, a special needs advocate, and an expert juggle

r of all the things — from managing Big Brother’s competitive travel soccer team while also managing a team of 10 international employees (Shanghai → Boulder!) for one of the largest med tech companies in the world… to all the life stuff in between! Yes, it’s as exhausting as it sounds, but I wouldn’t trade it. When I’m not working or carpooling stinky teenage soccer boys around the Mid-South, you’ll find me with my nose in a book (or a book in my ears — yes, audio books count as reading, and I will die on that hill!), journaling during the brrrr! months, and gardening in the spring and summer. However, being born and raised in the South and on SEC football (RTR, y’all!), soaking in the crisp beauty and smells of fall during football season is my absolute favorite. I’ll gladly take in any stray dog I find, but I will not — under any circumstances — provide the same act of kindness for a cat. I said what I said. I have no chill – I move fast, I eat fast, I talk fast. I’m loud — full stop. That trait is born out of necessity when you’re the 4th of 5 kids (prove me wrong). I’ve never been accused of not being heard. I love words and grammar and will forever champion the use of the Oxford comma, and cringe a little inside every time I hear someone say “irregardless.” And much to my mother’s chagrin, I have a mouth that could make a trucker blush. They are called sentence enhancers in our house and the only rule is, as long as they are used responsibly, i.e., they aren’t being slung at someone, do as you will. This blog is my coin jar — a place to share the nickels of wisdom, frustration, joy, and humor I’ve picked up while raising two wildly different boys: Aiden, my self-starting, high-achieving, soccer-loving firstborn, and Eli, my joyful warrior navigating autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and more acronyms than anyone should ever have to manage. Stick around for a bit and take a peek inside our messy, loud, busy, and often hilarious life. My hope is that you’ll find pieces of your own

Sometimes the hardest part of looking back is realizing people were responding to the version of you they could actually...
08/20/2026

Sometimes the hardest part of looking back is realizing people were responding to the version of you they could actually see.

I knew what I was holding back. They didn’t.

I knew the context behind my silence, my distance, and the moments when something finally became too much. Other people may have only seen the silence, the distance, or the reaction.

Hindsight is about sitting with that uncomfortable truth — and understanding how keeping so much close to the vest may have shaped other people’s experience of me too.

Not every relationship can be repaired. Not every conversation ends in understanding. But I can own my part, listen to how my choices affected others, and do better with what I know now.

🫙 New on The Nickel Jar. Linked below

I’ve told stories about how I edited parts of my life, compartmentalized others, masked pieces, and made myself smaller in order to keep things manageable — for me and for others.We’re not gonna re…

'Ripple Effect' was about what changed.The friendships. The family relationships. The marriage. The quiet grief that com...
08/17/2026

'Ripple Effect' was about what changed.

The friendships. The family relationships. The marriage.

The quiet grief that comes with realizing some things will never look the way you once imagined they would.

But there was one line from that post I couldn’t stop thinking about:

"I got very good at editing our life down into something easier for other people to hold."

The more I sat with it, the more I realized I hadn’t just edited our life.

I had edited myself.

'Taking Up Space' is the follow-up—to what happens when you stop making yourself smaller just to keep everyone else comfortable.

New on The Nickel Jar. 🫙

Linked in below.

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I almost didn’t share this one - but it's really been on my heart a lot lately.My hesitation is mostly because when I wr...
08/09/2026

I almost didn’t share this one - but it's really been on my heart a lot lately.

My hesitation is mostly because when I write about relationships, I'm not just telling my own story. There are other people inside those stories too.

So this isn’t about who was right, who was wrong, or who did what.

It’s about something I don’t think we talk about enough: how raising a child with special needs can quietly reshape friendships, family relationships, marriage—and even the person you used to be.

Some relationships stretch with you.

Some don’t.

And sometimes you spend years making yourself smaller so the life you’re living doesn’t feel like too much for everyone else.

This is **The Ripple Effect.**

New on The Nickel Jar. 🫙

There are things people warn you about when you become a parent.You’ll be tired.Your house will never really be clean again.You’ll worry more than you ever thought possible.Your marriage will chang…

eventh grade. 💙Another first day, another reminder that milestones don’t always look the way we imagined—and that’s okay...
08/05/2026

eventh grade. 💙
Another first day, another reminder that milestones don’t always look the way we imagined—and that’s okay. Every school year brings new worries, new victories, and new reasons to celebrate progress that most people never see.

Here’s to fresh starts, brave kids, and parents learning to let go… one first day at a time.

It turns out that happily ever after includes stress, exhaustion, resentment, forgiveness, disappointment, inside jokes,...
07/26/2026

It turns out that happily ever after includes stress, exhaustion, resentment, forgiveness, disappointment, inside jokes, hard conversations, forgotten conversations, and occasionally wondering how the person you married can still load the dishwasher like they have never seen a dish before.

18 Years Later... linked below/ in comments.

Eighteen years ago today, I walked down the aisle with a very clear picture of what our life would look like. Not an actual plan… of course! We were young. We had love, optimism, and absolute…

Our vacation vibe = researching all the things + listing out several options for every day + equal parts preparation to ...
07/20/2026

Our vacation vibe = researching all the things + listing out several options for every day + equal parts preparation to abandoned all of the above!

Sometimes the activity Eli has talked about for weeks becomes a hard no before we even get out of the car.

That does not mean the trip failed.

It just means we pivoted.

New on the blog: Vacation Mode—With a Backup Plan - linked below!

He walked into a room full of people who were complete strangers to him because they mattered to someone he loves.He sta...
07/12/2026

He walked into a room full of people who were complete strangers to him because they mattered to someone he loves.

He stayed until he couldn't anymore.

To most people, that probably doesn't sound like much.

To us... That was success.

"He was There" - linked below.

He walked into a room full of people who were complete strangers to him because they mattered to someone he loves. He stayed until he couldn’t anymore. To most people, that probably doesn& #82…

The room was full of people who were there for one reason.Her.Not because she was hosting.Not because she planned the me...
06/28/2026

The room was full of people who were there for one reason.

Her.

Not because she was hosting.
Not because she planned the menu.
Not because she organized the guest list.

Just... her.

Just Rita, linked below.

The room was full of people who were there for one reason. Her. Not because she was hosting. Not because she planned the menu. Not because she organized the guest list. Just… her.

My dad has never had much use for inside thoughts. If something crosses his mind, there is a very good chance it is goin...
06/21/2026

My dad has never had much use for inside thoughts. If something crosses his mind, there is a very good chance it is going to come out of his mouth — clearly, bluntly, and usually without stopping to consider whether the room was ready for it.

Zero Inside Thoughts - linked below.

My dad has never had much use for inside thoughts. If something crosses his mind, there is a very good chance it is going to come out of his mouth — clearly, bluntly, and usually without stopping t…

For the first time ever, a little boy showed up at our front door uninvited, rang the doorbell, and asked for ELI to com...
04/22/2026

For the first time ever, a little boy showed up at our front door uninvited, rang the doorbell, and asked for ELI to come out and play basketball with him.

I don’t know that I can fully explain how that hit me in every feel the way it did.

But I snapped a picture of them playing basketball in the driveway…
and just stood there in it - watching from behind the curtain in the upstairs window.

Because what looks like an ordinary moment to most people…
can feel like everything to a little boy who’s waited 13 years for it.

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