NL Miles Consulting

10/15/2026

🌿☕🍊 Coffee, Citrus & Plants — A Celebration of Healing, Growth & New Beginnings!
On November 14th, Stages & Pages Collective will be hosting Coffee, Citrus & Plants, an afternoon dedicated to slowing down, connecting with others, and taking a little time for ourselves.
We're bringing together some wonderful people to create an experience centered on healing, reflection, and community.
I'll be celebrating the release of my book, It Is Well: Guidance for Mindful Growth and Lasting Change.
This book has been a labor of love and reflects so much of what I believe about personal growth and wellness.
✨ Here's what we have planned:
🌿 Faith & Flow – An opportunity to slow down, reconnect, and find your center.
❤️ Grief Talks – Honest conversations about loss, healing, and learning to move forward.
🗣️ Pillar Conversation – Meaningful discussions that encourage connection, reflection, and growth.
🎨 Coloring & Creative Reflection – A chance to relax, get creative, and enjoy the moment.
☕ Coffee, Citrus & Plants – A welcoming atmosphere to enjoy refreshments, connect with others, and experience what we're creating.
📅 Saturday, November 14, 2026
🕒 3:00 PM – 6:00 PM
📍 1433 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN
🎟️ The event is FREE, but space is limited and registration is required!
👉 Register here:
https://www.eventbrite.com/.../coffee-citrus-plants...
Whether you're stopping by to celebrate my book release, participate in one of the experiences, or just spend an afternoon doing something different, we'd love to have you.
We spend so much of our lives managing responsibilities, meeting expectations, and taking care of everything and everyone else. Sometimes it's nice to have a space where we can simply show up, connect, and enjoy ourselves.
I hope to see you there! 🧡
Growing roots. Turning pages. Healing together. 🌱📖

10/13/2026

New post: When Did Aggression Become Affection? Explore how childhood messages about “boys being boys” can normalize harmful behavior and what to do instead. Read the full piece and reflect with me: https://wix.to/wfoSPLk

Remember when we were kids and somebody would tell us that the little boy pulling our hair, chasing us around the playground, or constantly bothering us was doing it because he liked us?Oh, he just has a crush on you.That's how boys flirt.He just wants your attention.And somehow that was supposed to...

09/23/2026

What if we stopped expecting our partners to read our minds? 🤔 New on the blog: Rooted and Real explores communication, boundaries, and what happens when we let go of mind-reading expectations. Read the full piece and reflect on how clearer conversation could change your relationship. https://wix.to/NAg1s44

I’ve been reading a series by Shanora Williams that has me thinking about relationships in a way I wasn’t necessarily expecting.In the series, there are these things called tethers. One in particular, a cold tether, connects two people who are destined for one another. When it is time for them t...

09/06/2026

Radical Acceptance: You can't heal what you refuse to accept. This short read breaks down why acceptance—of your past, present, and circumstances—is the first honest step toward true healing and change. No shame. No excuses. Just clarity and a path forward. Read more: https://wix.to/Rn8m9g0

One of the most difficult skills to develop isn't confidence.It isn't forgiveness.It isn't even resilience.It's radical acceptance.Acceptance of your past.Acceptance of your present.Acceptance of your current circumstances.Not with excuses.Not with shame.Not with hopelessness.But with honesty.Becaus...

08/25/2026

Sometimes the kindest people get tired — and that's okay. “Sometimes I'm Tired of Taking the High Road” explores what happens when kindness meets exhaustion, how to hold boundaries without losing yourself, and why your feelings still matter. Read more: https://wix.to/AFcqFaV

Can I be honest?Sometimes...I'm tired of being the nice one.Now before anyone misunderstands me, let me explain.I'm not saying I want to become mean.I'm not saying I'm going to start matching people's energy.I'm not saying I'm going to stop treating people with kindness and respect.I won't.Because t...

08/21/2026

🧠 Psychology Friday | Who's Been in Charge This Week—Amy or Frank?

It's Friday, so let's check in.

Think back over your week.

When something frustrated you, disappointed you, stressed you out, or didn't go according to plan—who took over?

🔥 Amy—the amygdala?
Quick to react. Emotional. Defensive. Ready to fight, flee, freeze, or assume the worst.

🧠 Or Frank—the prefrontal cortex?
Slowing things down. Thinking it through. Considering consequences. Asking, "Is this really worth my energy?"

And maybe the answer is both.

That's normal.

The goal isn't to get rid of Amy. We need her. The goal is recognizing when she's taken the wheel and knowing when it's time to let Frank drive again.

Maybe you walked away instead of arguing.

Maybe you waited before sending the text.

Maybe you took a few deep breaths before responding.

Or maybe Amy drove the whole car off the emotional highway this week. 😂 It happens.

The important part is recognizing it.

🪞 Friday Mirror Check:

Who was in charge most of your week—Amy or Frank? And what would you do differently next time?

Because emotional regulation isn't about never getting triggered.

It's about what you do once you realize you've been triggered.

🪞 Because every meaningful change begins with one honest look in the mirror.

08/20/2026

🧩 Thoughtful Thursday | What's Your Enneagram?

Have you ever heard someone say, "I'm a Type 2" or "That's such a Type 8 thing to do" and wondered what they were talking about?

They're probably referring to the Enneagram.

The Enneagram is a personality framework consisting of nine personality types, each associated with different motivations, fears, strengths and patterns of behavior.

For example, one type may be strongly motivated by achievement, while another seeks security. Someone else may have a strong desire to help and feel needed, while another highly values independence and control.

What I find interesting is that the Enneagram doesn't just ask:

"What do you do?"

It encourages you to consider:

"Why do you do it?"

And that's where it becomes useful for self-reflection.

Like most personality frameworks, it shouldn't become another box we put ourselves—or other people—in. It's not a mental-health diagnosis, and no personality test can capture the complexity of an entire human being.

But sometimes having language for our patterns can help us notice things we hadn't considered before.

And you know I love anything that encourages a little mirror work. 🪞

Have you ever taken an Enneagram assessment? If so, what type are you—and did you think it actually sounded like you?

I may have to take this one myself. 👀

08/19/2026

🌿 Wellness Wednesday | Have You Ever Tried a Sound Bath?

This week's Wellness Wednesday is a little different because I'm genuinely asking.

Has anyone tried a sound bath?

I've never experienced one, but I really want to.

Sound baths use instruments like singing bowls, gongs and chimes to create sounds and vibrations while you sit or lie quietly and relax.

There's some emerging research suggesting sound-based meditation may help reduce stress, tension and anxiety while promoting relaxation and an overall sense of well-being.

And honestly... that sounds wonderful. 😂

What interests me most is the intentional pause.

No phone.
No multitasking.
No solving anyone's problems.

Just lying still, listening and allowing your mind and body to settle.

I'm always interested in different approaches to wellness, particularly practices that encourage mindfulness and give our nervous systems an opportunity to slow down.

So this Wellness Wednesday, I'm asking you instead of telling you:

🪞 Have you ever experienced a sound bath?

Did you actually feel different afterward? Relaxed? Emotional? Sleepy? Nothing at all?

And most importantly...

Would you do it again?

Because I think this one is officially going on my wellness-to-do list. 😂

08/18/2026

💭 Thoughtful Tuesday | Cultural Competency

Cultural competency isn't about pretending we are all the same.

It's about learning to appreciate our differences without requiring assimilation or practicing appropriation.

There is a difference between saying, "You're welcome here," and saying, "You're welcome here as long as you become more like us."

Healthy inclusion allows people to maintain the traditions, customs, language, hairstyles, food, beliefs, celebrations, and other cultural practices that are meaningful to them without having to make those things more comfortable or familiar for everyone else.

And cultural preservation isn't automatically exclusion.

Wanting to preserve traditions, teach your children about their heritage, celebrate with your cultural community, or maintain practices passed through generations doesn't necessarily mean you dislike people outside of your culture.

We can preserve what makes us different and still invite others to the table.

Cultural competency asks us to become curious instead of judgmental—to understand before assuming and appreciate without needing to imitate or claim ownership.

Inclusion shouldn't require transformation.

Sometimes respect simply sounds like:

"I don't share your culture, but I respect your right to celebrate and preserve it."

🪞 Mirror Question:
Can you appreciate a culture that isn't yours without needing it to change—or become yours—for you to value it?

08/17/2026

🪞 Mirror Monday | Dear Younger Me

If I could tell my younger self one thing about friendship, it would be this:

Everyone is not going to like you—and that's okay.

You can be kind, friendly, genuine and well-intentioned and still not be someone's cup of tea.

One of the hardest lessons to learn is that everyone who is friendly isn't a friend, every friendship isn't meant to last, and someone's inability to connect with you doesn't automatically mean something is wrong with you.

🪞 What would you tell your younger self about friendship?