06/05/2026
Hi, I’m Olivia, a pediatric OT & mom.
When a child hits, kicks, bites, or throws things during a tantrum, it can feel overwhelming. In those moments, our instinct is often to stop the behavior immediately, teach a lesson, or find the perfect consequence.
But during the peak of a tantrum, your child’s brain isn’t in a place to learn.
Instead, focus on what matters most:
✔️ Keep everyone safe
✔️ Hold the boundary
✔️ Stay as calm as you can
✔️ Save the teaching for later
You can be understanding and firm at the same time.
“I know you’re upset.”
AND
“I won’t let you hit.”
That’s not being permissive. That’s teaching emotional regulation while keeping everyone safe.
What’s the hardest part about handling tantrums for you right now? Let me know in the comments. I may use your answer for a future post.
❤️ Save this for the next hard day.
💙 Share it with a parent who needs this reminder.