Jamie Wiklanski, LPC

06/27/2026

Relationship Truth #13

Anger is usually a bodyguard when conflict arises between partners.
It shows up to protect much softer, more vulnerable emotions underneath—like fear, sadness, or a sense of rejection.
What does your anger protect?

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06/26/2026

Relationship Truth #12

You don’t always need to fix your partner’s bad day.
Sometimes, you just need to be a safe harbor where they can drop anchor for a while.
Are you a fixer or a listener?

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06/25/2026

Relationship Truth #11

"Dependency is a fact; it is not a choice." – Dr. Sue Johnson
True independence is only possible when we have a secure base to lean on.

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06/24/2026

Relationship Truth #10

Ever wonder why relationship fights feel like life or death?
Because to our mammalian brains, losing our primary attachment figure is a survival threat.
It’s attachment panic, not an overreaction.

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06/23/2026

Relationship #9

A healthy relationship acts as a "safe haven" in a chaotic world.
When you know someone has your back unconditionally, the stress of the outside world drops significantly.

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06/22/2026

Relationship Truth #8

Needing your partner isn't being "needy." It's being human.
We are biologically wired for connection.
A secure bond actually makes us stronger and more independent, not weaker.

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06/21/2026

Relationship Truth #7

The foundation of a secure relationship comes down to what Dr. Sue Johnson's conceptuaThe foundation of a secure relationship comes down to what Dr. Sue Johnson's conceptua as A.R.E.
• Are you Accessible to me?
• Are you Responsive to my needs?
• Are you Engaged with me?
Which of these three is easiest for you?

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06/20/2026

Relationship Truth #6

Pursuing, nagging, or criticizing during a conflict is rarely about being controlling.
It’s often a panicked cry for connection.
It translates to: "Please don't shut me out!"

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06/15/2026

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06/14/2026

When a partner withdraws or shuts down during a fight, it usually isn't because they don't care.
For many, it's a profound feeling of overwhelming inadequacy.
They pull away to prevent making things worse.
Does this shift how you view the "silent treatment"?