Attached NY

10/03/2026

09/10/2026

08/25/2026

“I love you” and “I don’t know if I can keep doing this” can both be true.

So can:

I want to stay, but something has to change.
I want distance, but I don’t want to lose you.
I love my family, but being close to them hurts.
I know what everyone expects from me, but I’m not sure it’s what I want.

Relationship uncertainty is rarely just about making a decision.

On September 10th, I’ll be facilitating a FREE Community Conversation with Josh Connolly, Umme Kawser, and Corrin Voeller through the Relational Life Foundation about what happens when we get stuck in that in-between place.

We’ll be talking about the forces underneath relationship uncertainty: attachment, trauma, neurodivergence, culture, family roles, loyalty, relational patterns, and the very real consequences that can come with staying, leaving, or changing the relationship.

And, importantly, we’ll talk about how we can sit with uncertainty without rushing ourselves or someone else toward an answer.

🗓 September 10
⏰ 12pm PT / 3pm ET
🎟 Free + recording available

For therapists, coaches, and anyone who has ever found themselves thinking:

I love you, but…

Register here:

​What happens when we love someone, but aren’t sure what we want the relationship to look like anymore? Relationship uncertainty can show up in many forms: a couple caught between staying...

05/14/2026

Made this new image to explain the relationship grid from RLT therapy! Got to present it today to a practice and now want to humbly brag about it!!

Read more about the grid, and share what quadrant you fall into when in a conflict. https://www.attached-therapy.com/resources//relationship-grid-rlt

04/11/2026

Nerding out at the discernment counseling symposium!!

03/12/2026

Lily gives zero f***s about getting notes done

02/24/2026

Hey all! This Friday, I'm launching my yearlong learn-along for Discernment Counseling. This is for anyone who is already certified or going through certification. It will be a slow, deep dive into what Discernment is and a way for us to go through the certification material together. If you are interested, please join!

Join our year-long program for clinicians to deepen their Discernment Counseling practice with monthly live sessions, weekly prompts, and expert guidance.

12/04/2025

https://www.attached-therapy.com/resources/if-i-have-to-tell-you-it-doesnt-count-why-thats-not-true-and-why-it-feels-so-true

Trauma responses, attachment wounds, and why asking for support in relationships feels so hard. Learn how real love, repair, and communication actually work.

10/23/2025

Ever feel like you and your partner are stuck in a loop you can’t break?

Here’s a simplified relational map of how that often looks:

Trigger → 2. Reaction (blame, shutdown, criticism) → 3. Return to disconnection → 4. Resentment builds → back to 1.
In therapy, we trace your unique map and practice stepping off the loop — responding differently instead of repeating.
Want me to walk you through your cycle? DM me “map” and I’ll drop a prompt you can try with your partner.

10/23/2025

Lily finally broke down Quinn! Now I have three office mates! 🐶😽🐶