11/11/2026
“Today I’m going to get my life together 💪🏻” — you got out of bed with this thought, and 20 minutes later you’ve already:
~ read all the news;
~ mentally moved to three different countries;
~ lost two jobs you haven’t even found yet;
~ had an argument in your head with someone who is peacefully sleeping right now and has absolutely no idea :)
During periods of uncertainty, our brain really likes trying to control everything at once — and that only makes us more anxious.
🎯 There’s a simple way to regain a sense of stability. 🎯
Take a sheet of paper and divide it into three circles of influence:
1️⃣ What I can’t control:
Other people’s decisions, the past, the news, the economy, the weather, and everything else that happens without our direct involvement.
2️⃣ What I can influence:
Text someone, send a résumé, gather documents, discuss the terms, build up an emergency fund, talk to someone close to you. Here, we can take action, but the outcome still doesn’t depend entirely on us.
3️⃣ What I can create the conditions for:
Not what I can do to achieve a specific result right now, but what kind of causes I create through my own behavior.
For example:
— How do I talk to people?
— Do I keep my promises?
— Do I help other people get what I want for myself?
— How do I react to someone else’s success?
— What thoughts and actions do I repeat day after day?
Anxiety often blends all three circles into one huge list:
“I can’t control this → so there’s nothing I can do at all.”
But there’s a big difference between these two things. We can’t always control the event itself, but we can work on the causes we create from our side.
✍🏻 Take one question that is worrying you right now and break it down into these three circles. Notice what has changed in the way you see the situation. Has anything emerged that you can change right now?
