Bob Mullen Counseling

09/08/2026

"Fast thinking is instinctual, lacks planning, and is prone to error. Slow thinking is deliberate and analytical." (Daniel Kahneman). I often need to slow clients down so they can think more clearly, and often remind myself of my need to do the same.

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08/31/2026

Read an interesting article by John Townsend in the American Association of Christian Counselors' journal about emotional security. He lists four key stages, with my take on each:

1) Attachment--connecting well as a bab/tyoddler to safe parent(s),
2) Separation--having emotional safety as a child spends more time away from parent(s),
3) Integration--moving easily as a "tween or teenager" between closeness to parent(s) and separation from parent(s),
4) Adulthood--being an emotional secure person who can be safe emotional security for children.

The acronym "ASIA" captures those four key stages.

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08/24/2026

Experience is something each one of us gains from our experiences. We can share insights from our gains with others, yet the value of our unique life events can only be fully appreciated by ourselves.

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08/20/2026

Great information from Dr. Daniel Amen.

08/17/2026

Of all the issues I address in counseling, clear communication is one of the most difficult. Everyone has their unique way of sharing ideas and their unique way of hearing ideas. As I counsel people, I do my best I to model active listening as well as stating ideas clearly. Yes, I mess up at times, but that is also good for my clients to experience: No one is perfect in their communication!

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07/23/2026

Counseling clients arrive at sessions looking for better outcomes for their lives. I do what I can in session to help them see their choices, eliminate the ones that can't or won't happen, and make decisions that can lead to their goals.

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07/03/2026

As we get ready for the 250th anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence, may we remember how much many of those who signed that suffered for their decision.

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05/26/2026

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:2, ESV)
"For each will have to bear his own load." (Galatians 6:5, ESV)
"Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved." "(Psalm 55:22, ESV)

05/15/2026

“We don’t wait for wounds to become infected before treating them; as soon as we realize we’re bleeding, we wash the cut and care for it. We ought to do the same for our relationships. When you see a relational wound, treat it right away. It’s a lot easier than surgery.” (Isabelle Morley)

05/04/2026

Like many, I can get caught up in the "What if" game--"what if I did this" or "what if I didn't do that". Most "What ifs" are so far in the past that little if anything can be done about those. "What ifs" are best addressed by rethinking them as "what I did was...and that was the best I knew to do at the time". Closing past events and/or regrets well is healthy and allows us to choose better in the future.

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