05/18/2026
First then statements should be apart of your everyday language to your children. They set clear expectations of what needs to be done in order to get what they want. They may not catch onto it at first, but if you continue to use it and ONLY follow through once they do the first task its a game changer.
You typically use these when a non-preferred task needs to be done before a reinforcing task. A couple examples include:
"first clean up, then you can have play-doh"
"First go potty, then outside"
"put your shoes away first, then you can have TV"
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