05/07/2026
Over the years I have interacted with hundreds of spirits, both Earthbound souls and those residing in the Realms of Light. Earthbound souls show us what happens when a person dies but their story does not. They linger in the emotional residue of unfinished business, fear, guilt, or attachment. Their perception is narrow, dimmed, and often confused, not because they are lost, but because they are still oriented toward the life they left behind.
Souls in the Realms of Light, by contrast, are expansive, coherent, and deeply aware. They communicate through resonance rather than language, and their presence carries a clarity that dissolves fear on contact. They do not judge, correct, or demand; they illuminate.
Some encounters are terrifying because our deepest darkest secrets are terrifying. Others are life affirming as they are based in honor and love.
No one ever prepared me for the experience of having a spirit actually pass through me. It’s only happened once, but I hope never to repeat it or the circumstances that caused it to happen. It’s what happens when two worlds collide – literally.
John was admitted to the emergency room with his blood oxygen level in the low 80s, dangerously low, and complaining of chest pain. The medical team moved quickly, as they should have. They administered a standard breathing treatment, unaware that he was allergic to the medication. Within minutes, his heart went into a chaotic rhythm. The room shifted from routine urgency to controlled crisis.
They pushed John into a room and left us alone as they prepared for the potential to do a cardioversion. In other words, an attempt to shock his heart back into rhythm. What no one in that room could see, was that something else was happening alongside the medical emergency. John’s body struggled, his consciousness loosened. The boundary between his physical form and his spiritual awareness thinned in an instant. In that moment, his soul did what souls sometimes do when the body is overwhelmed; it reached for the nearest stable anchor.
He wondered if this was what his father felt at the end, the crushing pressure in the chest, the sudden collapse of breath, the body betraying itself. His father had died of a massive coronary at thirty seven, and now John was staring down the same corridor of fear.
And then, in a moment that felt like it belonged in a surreal comedy rather than an emergency room, two Franks came sliding into the scene. The first was John’s father, Frank, the man whose death had shaped so much of John’s life. The second was my father, also Frank who had adopted John as his son rather than his son-in-law.
They didn’t walk in. They didn’t appear in a beam of light. They slid, as if someone had greased the floor and given them both a running start. It was absurd and holy at the same time, like a sequence from a movie that shouldn’t exist but somehow does. Before I could even process what I was seeing, they slid right through me. Not around me. Not beside me. Through me!
The sensation was unmistakable, the cold rush, the displacement, the shock of being momentarily hollowed out and filled with something not you. It was the only time in my life a spirit has passed through me, and I understood instantly why it happened. They weren’t coming for me. They were coming for him.
They had knocked all the fear out of me. In an instant, the emotional circuitry that should have been firing , the terror, the urgency, the instinct to cling to him, went silent. I wasn’t standing there as a wife whose husband hovered at the threshold of one of life’s five exit points. I was standing there as an observer.
It was as if someone had lifted me out of my own body and set me just to the side, where I could see everything but couldn’t intervene. One would think I would have wanted to scream at him to stay, to fight, to choose life. But that impulse never arrived. It was displaced, suspended, as if the part of me capable of panic had been temporarily unplugged.
All I could do was watch; not frozen but emptied. A semi catatonic stillness, a state I had never experienced before and have never experienced since.
The two Franks had collided with me on their way to him, and in doing so, they had stripped away every layer of fear, attachment, and urgency. What remained was a kind of stark clarity, the clarity of someone standing at the edge of two worlds, witnessing a moment that did not belong to the living alone. I wasn’t choosing detachment. I was placed in it because this moment wasn’t mine to control. It was his.
It must be what it feels like when family members from the other side gather at the bedside of the dying; present, alert, waiting for the cue to move. There is a stillness to that moment, a suspension of ordinary time. The living feel it as a hush in the room, a softening of the air. But for those who can perceive the other side, it is a coordinated arrival. They wait for the soul’s signal, the subtle loosening, the shift in orientation, the moment when the dying person turns inward and upward at the same time. It is not a choice made with words. It is a choice made with the deepest part of the self. To stay or to go.
John hovered between worlds for two weeks as sepsis ravaged his body and his organs struggled on the edge of collapse. A quiet, persistent question, are you staying, or are you going?
I am beyond thrilled he decided to stay. Looking back, I understand why the Franks arrived the way they did, sudden, purposeful, and without ceremony. They weren’t there to frighten me or to pull him away. They were there because the threshold had opened, and family responds to thresholds the way family always has by showing up.
Perhaps this is why so many people in life altering situations describe a strange sense of shock or detachment, a feeling of being oddly calm when they “should” be terrified. Maybe they aren’t alone in those moments. Maybe their family members, the ones who have already crossed, are standing in their stead, absorbing the fear, holding the line, creating a buffer so the living can endure what the body and mind cannot process all at once. That’s what it felt like for me.
The fear didn’t disappear because I was brave. It disappeared because something, someone, stepped between me and the terror. The two Franks didn’t just arrive for John. They arrived for me too.
And when the crisis passed, when John chose to stay, when his body began the long climb back from the edge, I understood something I had never fully grasped before; the living are not the only ones who gather in moments of danger. The dead gather too; not to take, but to hold. Because in the Light, we are all Love.