ADHD Dude

06/18/2026

When you are implementing new strategies at home, and something is not working the way you expected, having someone to ask makes all the difference.

ADHD Dude Membership includes twice monthly live Office Hours where you can get your questions answered in real time. Member-driven, no limit on questions. You won't be on camera, and every session is recorded so you can watch or listen at your convenience.

Live support at no additional cost is part of what makes the ADHD Dude Membership different.

Parent Behavior Training plus the support to implement it.

06/17/2026

Few things make parents question their parenting as much as their child exhibiting severe tyrannical behaviors. These behaviors include property destruction, physical aggression, revenge-based school refusal, and threats of self-harm.

Most parents in this spot have already tried everything. Backing off the demand. Focusing only on connection. Walking on eggshells. You did it because you were told it was the compassionate choice, and you were doing the best you could with the information you had.

Here is the hard part. For a child with ADHD, behaviors that work get repeated. When aggression or threats make the demand disappear, your child learns that they work, and behaviors that work do not fade. They get used more. That pattern has a name: parental accommodation.

What actually helps is structure, predictability, and clear limits held calmly and consistently. I call that Affective Calmness. It goes with high empathy and high expectations, not high giving and low expectations.

You can acknowledge that something is hard and still hold the line. Stepping into your parental authority does not cost you connection. You are the most stabilizing thing you can offer your child.

Your child's labels do not decide this. The work you do to help them build skills is. ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training programs are built on the research and have been used by thousands of families in over 50 countries.

Go to our website to get started.

06/16/2026

This is a clip from ADHD Dude membership office hours.

Parenting a child with ADHD comes with questions that do not have easy answers. And most parents do not have access to someone with real depth of knowledge and expertise in ADHD research to help them troubleshoot.

𝗪𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗹𝗼𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱, 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝘆 𝘂𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗, 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗻𝗲𝘂𝗿𝗼𝗱𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗽𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀. 𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀.

Twice a month, ADHD Dude members get direct access to that expertise through live office hours where they can ask as many questions as they need. You are not seen or heard on camera. Some members come to watch and learn from the questions others are asking. And if you cannot make it live, every session is available as a replay.

To have your questions answered, you do need to attend live.
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06/15/2026

Every interaction turning into pushback, refusal, or arguing is exhausting. You say something needs to happen. Your child resists, you explain, they push harder, and suddenly you are in a power struggle you never meant to start.

Here is what most parents are never told. Cooperation does not come from more explaining, more reminders, or better negotiating in the moment. It comes from something you put in place long before the moment ever arrives. We call them the "pre-steps," and they are what most parents miss.

When that structure is clear, the arguing starts to lose its power. Not because your child suddenly agrees with you, but because the way your home works finally makes sense to them.

You can step out of the argument vortex and help your child see how capable they truly are.

Find the Parent Behavior Training sequence for your child's age in the comments section.

06/15/2026

An article I wrote for ADDitude to help your child with ADHD have a successful summer camp experience.

How to get ready for summer camp: tour the camp, practice bunk chores, set clear expectations, and more summer camp tips for ADHD kids.

06/14/2026

Every month, parents of young adults 19 and older reach out at their tipping point, stuck and unsure how to help. Their young adult treats the family poorly and carries a tremendous sense of entitlement, wanting to be a younger child when it serves them, then insisting they cannot be told what to do because they are legally an adult. College or work often has not gone as hoped.

These parents did nothing wrong. They followed advice that sounded compassionate and child-centered: put the child's feelings above everyone else in the family, lead with high warmth, and excuse poor treatment of family members in the name of "compassion". This is called Parental Accommodation.

But decades of parenting research point the other way. Children become capable adults when warmth is paired with real expectations. Warmth with almost nothing expected produces the opposite: less self-control, more entitlement, and a harder time handling adult life.

A young adult functioning this way is not yet functioning like an adult. ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training was built for parents of children up to 18, and it still applies here. You can lower the accommodations, reclaim your authority, and help your young adult move forward.

If you have been parenting with a "let them" approach, there is no judgment here. But it will not serve your child in the long term. You can change it. It will take work. Most importantly, it will help your child learn how capable they are.

06/13/2026

Living with severe tyrannical behaviors is exhausting, and a lot of parents are carrying it quietly.

The aggression, the property destruction, the threats of self-harm, the intimidation. These behaviors can take over a whole home until everyone is organized around keeping one child calm.

Here is what most behavior advice leaves out: the pre-steps. These are the steps you put in place in advance so your child knows exactly how you will change your response to their behavior.

We use pre-steps for two reasons. Kids with ADHD do better with routine and consistency, and this change is going to feel like a loss of control to them. We want them prepared for the parent to step back into their parental authority.

One of those pre-steps is the Announcement Letter. It is how a parent prepares their child in advance for what they will be doing differently, rather than asking the child to change. The graphic is a sample Announcement Letter available for download from the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training courses.

When you reclaim your parental authority, your child's behavior may worsen for a time. This is why I tell families who use the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training that things may get worse before they get better. That is not failure. It is a child mourning their loss of control through their behavior.

Reality Check: No amount of therapy, OT, coaching, etc., is going to change your child's behavior. You are the one who needs to change your response to their behavior if you want it to improve.

If your child exhibits severe tyrannical behavior, you need an evidence-informed plan and the steps to follow it. That is what the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training programs provide. See the sequence for your child's age in the comments section.

Our Parent Behavior Training sequence helps families reduce and, in many cases, stop these behaviors once they have taken over the home.

06/12/2026

06/12/2026

Trip Camp is a summer experience designed specifically for boys entering grades 6 through 11 with ADHD. Trip Camp combines the ADHD Dude curriculum with daily trips alongside other boys who understand them.

Separate weeks are available for middle school and high school.

Now entering its 10th summer with locations in Margate, New Jersey, and Columbus, Ohio. Because this is such a unique program, each summer families travel from across the U.S. and internationally for their sons to participate in this experience.

Learn more at the camp website, link in the comments section.