Dr. Lisa Nezneski - Pharm.D, Shaman, & Meditation Teacher

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09/02/2026

Ever catch yourself talking to your kid without actually looking at them? 👀 Between the checklist mornings and the mental to-do list running in the background, it's easy to be physically there but somewhere else entirely.

The good news is you don't need to overhaul your whole morning to fix it. A few seconds of actually stopping, making eye contact, and letting them finish a sentence can shift the whole tone of the day, both for you and for them. It's a small habit, but the kind that adds up in ways you don't notice until months later, when they still come find you to talk. 🤍

If you want a simple way to build this into your routine, my book has a whole practice built around it. Comment BOOK and I'll send it your way. 📖

09/02/2026

There is a piece of film from the 1970s that psychology students still cannot watch comfortably.

A mother goes completely blank-faced at her own baby for two minutes. The baby works — smiles at her, points at something to redirect her, screeches, reaches, the whole repertoire three or four times over. And when none of it lands, the baby turns away, curls in, and comes apart.

That is the clip everybody has seen. Here is the part almost nobody talks about.

When she comes back, recovery takes seconds.

That is Ed Tronick's Still Face paradigm, and his real life's work was never about rupture. It is about repair. Ordinary connection is a near-constant cycle of mismatch and repair, and what makes a relationship secure is not the absence of mismatch — it is the reliability of the repair.

Honest caveat: that is an infant paradigm and I am extending it to your twelve-year-old. That is an analogy, not a finding, and I am not going to pretend otherwise.

But you have been running a still face all week. Not cruelly. It is the face of a person doing eleven things — scanning, timing, calculating the drive, answering with about eight percent of themselves. It happens forty times a morning.

The problem is not the mismatch. The problem is going a whole morning without a single repair.

So here is the interrupt, and it is four seconds. Stop moving. Turn your whole body, not just your head. Land your eyes on their face. Say one thing that has nothing to do with logistics — not "do you have your bag," which is the still face with words on it.

That is the whole of today's practice. Four seconds, in the mess, with the eggs burning.

Where in your day does your face go still? Tell me the exact moment — I read every comment.

09/01/2026

Some days don't need a lesson or a takeaway, just a moment to pause. If today felt heavy, rushed, or like you were running on empty, this is your reminder that you still showed up, and that counts.

Take the next 30 seconds to just breathe. Let the drumming settle your and give your body a chance to catch up with everything you've been carrying today.

Save this for the nights you need a minute to reset.

254 days.That is how long it took the slowest person in the study to make ONE new habit automatic. One.And you have been...
09/01/2026

254 days.

That is how long it took the slowest person in the study to make ONE new habit automatic. One.

And you have been promising your family a settle-in week since Monday.

Everybody knows the twenty-one day rule. It never came from habit research at all — it traces to a plastic surgeon in the 1960s, noticing how long patients took to stop being startled by a changed face in the mirror. That is the entire provenance of the number running your expectations.

In 2009, Phillippa Lally and her colleagues at University College London actually measured it. One simple daily behaviour, tracked over twelve weeks. The median was sixty-six days. The range ran from eighteen to two hundred and fifty-four.

Honest caveat — small study, under a hundred people, single simple behaviours. But notice which way that cuts. Your September is not one behaviour. It is a bedtime, a wake-up, a drive, a lunch, a homework block and four people who volunteered for none of it.

So the settle-in week is not late. It was never on the calendar.

And every day you spend waiting for it is a day you quietly decided to be a worse version of yourself in the meantime. That is the real cost. Not the disorganisation — the postponement.

Here is the reframe, and it is the spine of the whole week: are not the love. The routine is only the container. What you put inside it takes about four seconds, and four seconds is available in a completely chaotic morning.

If you have been waiting for the calm week, comment HELP below and I will point you toward where to start.

08/31/2026

If ain't this you and your siblings every single day, then you're living a life 😂 Just kidding, but if you've got more than one kid at home, chances are you've heard some version of this exact exchange more times than you can count.

Here's the thing most people miss: kids rarely fight about the actual object. The shoe, the charger, the hoodie, it's almost never really about that. It's usually about feeling rushed, overlooked, or like nobody's really listening in that moment, and blaming a sibling is just the fastest outlet available.

Next time it happens, try pausing before jumping in to referee. Ask what's really going on underneath the bickering, and you might catch the real issue before it turns into a bigger morning meltdown. It won't fix every squabble, but over time it builds a home where everyone feels a little more , even during the chaos.

Like this post if you relate!

08/31/2026

Your kitchen this morning was not a kitchen. It was four people standing in four different time zones, sharing one coffee maker, pretending nothing had happened.

And nobody argued about the real thing. Everybody argued about the shoes.

Here is what actually happened at your address. Somebody moved the alarm. Bedtimes moved, wake-ups moved, the drive appeared, the lunches appeared — and the whole household changed gears on the same morning. Not one nervous system under that roof was consulted.

Till Roenneberg, a chronobiologist at Ludwig Maximilian University of Munich, spent decades proving something obvious once you hear it: human beings are not issued the same internal clock. It shifts hard in adolescence. Your teenager is not lazy — your teenager is running a genuinely later clock.

He named the gap between the clock your body wants and the clock your calendar demands. Social jetlag. It is measured in actual hours, like a time zone you never flew to.

Honest caveat, because I will not sell you a clean line the data does not support: that research describes populations, not your specific twelve-year-old on a specific Tuesday.

What survives is the shape. You were not managing four bad attitudes this morning. You were managing four biological clocks that disagreed, in one hallway, before seven a.m.

And nobody said the true sentence — this is hard, and I did not agree to this. So it came out as footwear. It always comes out as footwear.

This is day one of nine weeks from , and we start at home rather than with logistics, because home is where almost nobody is getting the good version of you right now.

🙋 if this was your kitchen.

08/31/2026

August is almost over. Before you rush into September, give yourself a moment to pause.

A new month doesn’t have to mean becoming a completely new person. Sometimes, personal growth is simply noticing what you’ve learned, what you’ve survived, and what you’re ready to leave behind.

These 5 questions can help you check in with yourself before the month begins. starts with being honest about where you are, not where you think you should be.

Save this for your September reset and come back to it when you need a little clarity.

08/30/2026

I learned something about surviving divorce from a pelican.

I watched this bird hunt alone. It flew low, dove in, missed, and tried again. And again. It didn’t seem embarrassed by the misses. It just kept paying attention and trying.

That’s what it reminded me about resilience: you can miss, fail, start over, and still keep going. You don’t have to get everything right on the first try.

And sometimes, when your mind is somewhere else entirely, you can miss what’s right in front of you. helps you come back to the moment, while helps you keep moving forward.

The pelican eventually caught its fish.

Maybe surviving a hard season is a little like that. Try. Miss. Learn. Try again.

COMMENT PERSIST and I’ll send you the book link.

08/30/2026

Your brain notices more when you slow down.

We move through so much of the day on autopilot that we can miss the little things right in front of us. Taking a moment to notice something beautiful, unexpected, or simply still can bring you back to the present.

That’s one reason can make ordinary moments feel more meaningful. When we practice , we start noticing what’s already here instead of always waiting for something bigger.

Sometimes, the shift isn’t about changing your day. It’s about changing what you notice.

What’s one small thing you noticed today? 👇

08/30/2026

Four years before this sentence, I typed “no one” into a security question asking who my best friend was.

Here is the last page of the same book.

I see who I’ve become. I like her. I really like her. I’m really glad that she survived all that chaos. I’m really glad that, while she lived sad on that island, she learned to love herself.
And then this. The fabric of my life is perforated so I can let all the light in. The fabric of my life is punctuated with significant and regular moments.

And the very last line of the whole book: in addition to loving myself, I have learned that I am never alone.

That is the distance. From no one, to never alone.

Let me close the loop I opened on Monday, because I left something out on purpose. Monday I gave you the 1978 lottery study — the hedonic treadmill. You rise, you fall, you go back to your set point. It is bleak if you stop there, because it implies nothing you do matters much.

Richard Lucas, Ed Diener and their colleagues did what that study couldn’t. They followed the same people for well over a decade, through marriage, unemployment, disability and widowhood. And the treadmill did not hold cleanly. Adaptation was often incomplete. Some events moved people’s long-run level and left it moved. The variation between individuals was enormous — the average was hiding people who never came back, and also people who ended up above where they started.

Honest caveat: self-reported life satisfaction, and an average across thousands is a blunt instrument for any one person. What survives is the sentence this whole month has been walking toward. The set point can move. And it moves over years, not weekends.

Which is why I won’t pretend a video can do this. I’ve spent four weeks handing you tools — one true sentence to one person, the word yet, a second column, one meal without a phone, one ordinary thing attended. Every one of them works. Not one of them is a life.

And the ending itself isn’t a revelation. It’s a snake in the yard named Harvey who eats bugs and is helpful, a pixie haircut, and Orlando traffic that takes an hour to go five miles — which I wrote down that I enjoyed. Ordinary became extraordinary. Mundane became special.

That closes the August series. Four weeks: the ground gave way, alone is not the same as empty, healing is not a straight line, and ordinary becomes extraordinary.

If you’re standing in your own year of this — if any of the last twenty-eight days has felt less like content and more like somebody describing your kitchen — don’t walk the rest of it by yourself.

Book a call: https://www.fiveminutemindful.com/book-discovery-call

Thirty minutes, free, no pitch you have to sit through.

The poem is “The Year of Becoming,” the closing movement of :

If this month helped, share it — that’s how one more person finds the . And tell me which day landed hardest; I read every single one. Science-backed. Soul-supported. The Nez Zen Community.

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