M.art.in Psychology & Fitness

08/08/2026

Next group meeting is on the 15th of August, a week from now Maximus Heath + Fitness at 5.30pm

08/03/2026

This famous line is a core insight by Carl Rogers, a famous American psychologist and founder of person-centered therapy. It means that true personal growth begins only when you stop fighting reality and judging yourself with harsh shame. What the Paradox Means 1) Not giving up: Acceptance does not mean you like everything or plan to stay the same. It simply means you see your true self honestly right now. 2) Stopping the fight: Hating yourself creates internal stress and blocks growth. When you stop fighting who you are, you use less energy on shame. 3) Creating safe space: Compassion gives you the mental peace needed to look at your habits with clear curiosity instead of fear. Why It Works 1) Energy release: Self-criticism exhausts your mind. Acceptance frees up that energy so you can use it for real action. 2) Clear vision: You cannot fix a problem until you admit it is truly there. 3) Gentle growth: Change driven by love and understanding lasts much longer than change driven by hate or punishment.

07/30/2026

Another successful adventure. Only 3 hours from LI. Hunter Mountain is the second-highest peak in the Catskills (4,040 ft) in Greene County, NY, known for its year-round activities, including skiing and hiking to the state’s tallest fire tower, which offers panoramic views.

07/16/2026

A healthy relationship doesn’t deny your flaws—it sees them in the context of your humanity.

Toxic relationships often reduce a person to their worst moments, mistakes, or shortcomings. Over time, this can erode self-worth and create shame.

A loving partner does something very different. They acknowledge your imperfections without allowing them to define your identity. They correct with respect, forgive when appropriate, and remember that you are more than your failures.

Healthy love says, “I know what you’ve done, but I also know who you are.”

Your mistakes are part of your story—not your identity.

07/13/2026

Life lately

07/02/2026

07/02/2026

Healthy relationships aren’t built by pretending these emotions don’t exist-they’re built by learning how to recognize, understand, and work through them.

Criticism slowly erodes respect. Resentment builds emotional distance. Fear keeps partners from being vulnerable. Guilt can trap people in unhealthy dynamics. Left unaddressed, these patterns often repeat themselves.

The encouraging news is that these are learned patterns-not life sentences. With self-awareness, honest communication, and the right support, they can be replaced with trust, emotional safety, and genuine connection.

Whether you’re working with a psychologist, counselor, therapist, or relationship coach, asking for help isn’t a sign of failure-it’s an investment in healthier relationships and better mental health.

❤️ Healing starts when you stop blaming and start understanding.

06/25/2026

Link to the podcast in my bio, in my story and here

https://youtu.be/xXOD3nncHB0?is=N2s6Nh9-rbNt9LCN

06/20/2026

“Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.” — Alfred Adler

Two people can walk through the same storm and come out with entirely different stories. One may see only loss, while another discovers resilience, wisdom, and purpose.

Psychology teaches us that while we cannot always control what happens to us, we can influence how we interpret it. The meaning we assign to our experiences often shapes our emotions, our choices, and ultimately the direction of our lives.

Your story is not only about what happened to you. It is also about what you decide it means.