Hurt Counseling Center

06/16/2026

Yes.

06/16/2026

interesting article discussing recent studies and findings regarding a correlation between trauma perimenopause, and menopause. The essence of the article expresses that they are discovering a connection between trauma memories having a resurgence during these times of life. It is good to be aware of this in order to get into therapy if you are noticing symptoms 💛

https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/health/a71472814/menopause-trauma-symptoms/?link_source=ta_first_comment&taid=6a2f32a6f120d200018dc211&utm_campaign=trueanthemFBOPR&utm_content=6a2f32a6f120d200018dc210&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&fbclid=IwdGRjcASdlW1jbGNrBJ2UXGV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDDM1MDY4NTUzMTcyOAABHg7QqJAqh-UdH6EUEJd_bkaFHqFf6GcTEVzZ3B3LCRG9xWmrDnXobQw1p2N3_aem_7I5k3mtlccgt5jA0GPYLAQ

For some women, perimenopause can trigger PTSD symptoms like flashbacks, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts. Here’s how to manage them.

06/16/2026

"Who were you conditioned to “perform” for?

Because something many trauma survivors have in common is that we were all conditioned to “perform” for somebody.

Many of us were conditioned to believe that we did not have worth if we did not “perform.”

Or we were not safe if we did not “perform.”

Maybe we were conditioned to believe we would be abandoned if we did not “perform.”

Our “performances” take many forms. Some of us were programmed we had to look a certain way.

Some of us were heavily programmed to believe we had to weigh a certain amount.

Maybe we were programmed to believe we had to be funny.

Some of us were programmed to believe we had to be sexually available.

Whatever it was, we were programmed to believe that our life literally depended on our “performance.”

We couldn’t opt out. Not realistically, not safely.

Fast forward to now: many of us believe that we still have to “perform."

The person or entity that we were originally conditioned to believe we had to perform for may not even be in our lives anymore— may not even be alive anymore— yet we STILL believe we have to “perform” for them.

Who it for you?

For me, it tends to be a combination of my father, and my former mentor in the trauma treatment field.

For as much as I develop my self esteem and work my trauma and addiction recovery, my brain still steers right back to imagining what ether or both of them would think or say about how my life and career are going.

It’s no way to live.

“Performing” for people from our past will exhaust and demoralize us.

It’s important to know that we’re not “choosing” to “perform”— we were conditioned, programmed, brainwashed to believe we “have” to.

Stopping it is going to take more than a one time decision.

It’s going to require us to be patient, realistic, and self compassionate with ourselves when we stop “performing”— and our anxiety spikes.

Because it will.

Neither you nor I have to “perform” in the way we were once upon a time conditioned to believe we had to.

We have worth and our lives and careers have value, whether or not our father or mentor would approve of them or not.
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Show time is over.

And that’s okay. Really."

-Dr. Patrick Glenn Doyle

06/16/2026

06/15/2026

Pretty much everyone is busy. If they're making you a priority, that's something to value and appreciate, not take advantage of 💜 Sometimes it's not changing how we show up and how we love, it's changing our prespective and learning to appreciate the gifts we are given

06/15/2026

Meaning that we can't treat our loved ones in the painful way(s) that we've been treated by abusive people and then expect a healthy relationship. It doesn't work that way

06/15/2026

The internet can be a fantastic resource but there are many criteria and rule outs that one needs to know (as well as the degrees and licenses) before one can diagnose

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZa34E9gYzP/?igsh=MWkzNmZ3bGF2MmlkNQ==