Anchored Counseling LLC

06/07/2026

It's not that people don't know what they need, but more that people think the short term "fix" for what is upsetting the harmony in their relationship is the goal.

It can't be the only goal, though.

Longer term adjustment to patterns, assumptions, and reactions needs to be part of the therapeutic work in relationship therapy. Otherwise, you'll find yourselves right back into a pattern (even though it is a new one) when something else comes up.

Fights are usually not about what you think they are about. Partners are not out to get one another. But, especially in q***r relationships, our baggage from having to prove and validate ourselves to the world around us makes the ways that conflict shows up in our relationships especially significant. And that truth (like many others in our community) deserves special attention.

If you are ready to work with a therapist who not only gets it but is trained to help you, send me a msg or check out my link in my bio.
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06/03/2026

I talk about coming out later in life all of the time on my YT channel, I don't know why I never do on here.

Here's the thing: coming out later in life is something that has always been happening, it just didn't have a fancy name to it. Not everybody knows when they are younger, and not everybody has access to what it means to come out, what it looks like, that it is even an option, or has adults in their lives that encourage them to be honest with themselves about who they are.

So people grow up and get into the relationships that they think they're supposed to get into and live a lot of life before they get to a place where they realize that there is something they have been running from or avoiding or just haven't known about themselves over the years.

Coming to terms with your own Identity or your own q***rness after building an entire life in a different identity is jarring, and can be intimidating.

It can also be beautiful and freeing.

If you're looking to work with someone who understands this path, I have a few spots opening this summer for one-on-one therapy clients or for couples navigating this together.

Check out my link for more info.

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06/01/2026

🌈 Happy Pride ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤎🩷🩵🤍

Today starts pride month 2026 and with it comes so many feelings.

Wherever you are in your journey, I hope you have fellow travelers.

And I hope you are finding peace and joy 🫶🏼

***rcouples

05/31/2026

We still need pride month.
Even if you don't celebrate it
Even if you can't acknowledge it publicly
Even if it is old news for you
Even if the government is cutting public funding
Even if rights are being lost
Even if they don't get it.

We still need it.

I hope you find a way to celebrate this June. 🌈



***rcouples

05/28/2026

May 28 is LGBTQ Domestic Violence Awareness Day. The specific needs of our community for safe reporting option ns, educated support staffing, and resources for victims has never been more important

Check out .dvafoundation for more information and to assist in the work they are doing year round 🫶🏼

05/26/2026

Codependent relationships can happen to anyone, but they are rarely what you think they are. And they look very different in q***r relationships than they do in the straight world.

If I had a dollar for every person that told me that my relationship with my wife was codependent, or told some other q***r person their relationship was codependent, I'd be a pretty rich person.

And most of those people were straight.

Beyond the stereotype of so many people in straight marriages not actually liking each other, which I'm not going to comment on because I don't know if that's actually true, there is this idea that fulfilling emotional friendships have to come from outside of the relationship.

But often in q***r relationships, that friendship is happening WITH the partner. Which makes their time together more significant and their place in each other's lives more significant too.

But there's a difference between spending a lot of time with someone, liking to spend time with someone, and not being able to emotionally regulate unless they are emotionally regulated. I will say as I have recently in the carousel that there are some therapy speak things that have really made relationships a bit harder. This would be one of them.

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05/21/2026

Some of these are kind of cringy, some of them mildly annoying, and some of these are really damaging.

I've seen a lot of discourse recently about how social media has made therapy terms more accessible and how people just put all their information out there now instead of keeping certain things private.

But what I don't hear talked about enough is the rampant misunderstanding of what some of this information actually means and because of that the harm that can show up. So I do think that it is the responsibility of those of us who are on social media and who are also licensed therapists to clear a few things up.

Make sure you're following along for more content about q***r relationships.

05/19/2026

Even the term "second marriage" can sometimes be said in a whisper.

I can't tell you the number of times that I've come in contact with a person who has essentially sworn off marriage because their straight marriage went so poorly. But then what do you do when you fall in love with someone after you have discovered who you are and been able to live into that for the first time?

Marriage is a very individual very personal decision. No one should get married if they don't want to, because it's not mandatory for every relationship. But not getting married again because you are straight marriage went poorly when you realize that you were not straight isn't fair to you or to the person that you end up with later. It's okay to be scared, it's okay to want that connection again with someone, and it's okay to not feel like you need that level in your relationship. But you do need to do the work of asking yourself why so that you're sure it is for you and not for fear of your past.

What do you think? We need to talk about more in our community? I'd love to hear your thoughts below, or feel free to DM me. Follow along for more q***r relationship content.

***rcouples

10/24/2025

Myths and Fears -

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.- Plato

07/27/2025

I know why you still haven't booked a therapy appointment.

You also know why.

But the job of the therapist in the room with you and your partner is NOT to tell you if you are going to "make it" or not.

Your therapist's job is to help you and your partner work through your current relationship stressors, help you find the reasons you keep coming back to the same arguments again and again & resolve the things that can be resolved so the relationship can move forward.

If you are worried about a therapist thinking negatively about you or or partner (or your relationship) let me try to put you at ease.

Yes couples who come in doing these things are typically in a more cooperative and "ready to heal" space, I ALSO see these signs when a relationship is healing and becoming stronger.

So if you aren't sure that you are currently willing to face one another when having the hard conversations, or attending to one another while in therapy, or even if you aren't sure that therapy ISNT you or your partner's last real try to repair the relationship, those aren't reasons to not book the appointment.

🤔 Interested in working with a relationship therapist who is also a real human 💁🏻‍♀️? I have some openings for couples starting immediately. Check out the link in my bio, comment LET'S GO here, or DM me for more details on how to work together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? There's nothing wrong with that, and I still want you to have tools to help your relationship.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

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