In-Law & Disorder

10/23/2026

Sharks vs. Penguins

10/23/2026

Remembering that one time my sister-in-law came to me saying that even though her brother was lazy, dirty, lacked initiative, didn't plan dates, didn't try to meet me at all... he worked, so he was a good man, and to find someone to claim children that weren't his... and how it was my turn to take the two closest women to her because they weren't going to ruin another one of her relationships...

My mother-in-law has always lived with her daughter, leaving when my sister-in-law got married to flee the family home at 17/18. None of her marriages or relationships lasted. This latest and last guy was having extreme issues with my mother-in-law, and it was either him or her. My sister-in-law came, and we drank and smoked, talking about her mom, brother, and grandmother. She told me how lucky I was because her mom didn't live with us, and she reminded me how great a man her brother is.
Sometime down the road, my mother-in-law and grandmother were kicked out of my sister-in-law's home (COVID ICU) that she shared with the man she is still currently with. She told me that her mother was no longer going to end her relationships, and that it was my turn. Needless to say, what I thought was my strong marriage ended.
For someone to have to kick out their mother and grandmother, who was just in the ICU for COVID for almost 4 months, are they heartless and cold-blooded? Or were they fighting for their lives and had no idea how to take care of these issues, just to unload it on me? Should I have fought for me and our children for so long, only to ALWAYS & STILL come in second to his grandmother, his mother, his niece... No one in that entire family dynamic has woken up yet.

Has anyone ever been in, or know of someone in a similar situation? Have they healed, or are they still trying to heal? Please share 🤗

10/23/2026

Remembering that one time when I was leaving for the pool, and I let my mom think that it was anorexia...

I was 11/12yo then, and my parents, aunt, uncle, and a couple of cousins saw me in my black bathing suit, and my mom was horrified by how bony I was. All the while, it was the drugs that I took for my parents' room.
It started when I ate 2 ribs instead of 1, because now what were they (my parents) going to eat? My father whooped my ass and forced me to eat ALL of the meat and rice. I was so upset because I was also working, so where was this money I was contributing going?
I always knew my parents were dopers and alchies, as many times food stamps were used, sent with a note. To avoid eating, and to make sure that my sisters got enough to eat, I got into their drugs. They never noticed.

There is so much to unpack here, just from this one little memory; do you have traumas that shaped your entire being? How did/are you finding peace? How do those memories affect EVERY SINGLE one of your relationships? Has anyone experienced anything similar? Please share 🤗

10/04/2026

geronimo

10/04/2026

& vise-versa

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09/23/2026

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09/22/2026

Thought’s? Unfortunately, I feel in my soul that’s what these past eleven + years have been

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07/05/2026

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06/25/2026

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05/22/2026

Opinions, please:

Due to ever evolving lifestyles, do you think that cultural norm’s, such as matrilineal/patrilinial, are acceptable if one of the partners (and/or children) is uncomfortable? Is money more important than the family that you made? Or would you rather make your family happy, comfortable, and safe?