Jerome Hoffman, Life Coach in San Diego

09/29/2026

Financial freedom does not mean retiring early...

https://8financialpersonalities.com/financial-freedom-does-not-necessarily-mean-retiring-early/

09/28/2026

See how an individual session during couple's therapy can be beneficial.

https://lifecoachadvising.com/2026/09/28/an-individual-session-in-couples-therapy/

09/27/2026

An excerpt from the 8 Financial Personalities; a book on how to better understand your financial self.

https://8financialpersonalities.com/financial-and-therapeutic-studies-and-experience-meet/

09/23/2026

Sharing excerpts from a past creation, the 8 Financial Personalities.

https://8financialpersonalities.com/the-8-financial-personalities-and-how-to-make-adjustments/

09/21/2026

A Therapist's Ponderings: Couple's Therapy Part 7
Find out why I do individual sessions in couple's work and many therapists do not. The challenge of secrets.

https://lifecoachadvising.com/2026/09/21/individual-sessions-in-couples-therapy-and-potential-secrets/

09/15/2026

A Therapist's Ponderings; Couple's Therapy part 6
Read about the divisive power of anger.

The importance of sharing sadness and hurt rather than anger in Couple's therapy. Anger can be divisive and does not draw others closer.

09/07/2026

Couple's Therapy part 5 Internal and external processors.

Couple's therapy; learning if you are an internal processor or an external processor and how to come together in a way both needs are met.

08/31/2026

A Therapist's Ponderings; Couple's Therapy Part 4
Earlier I highlighted the disadvantages to making assumptions in therapy. This is also true in our everyday lives. We often make assumptions about the intent of others. These assumptions impact how we respond to other people in our own life. A simple example before we get back to Brenda and Barry. Your partner leaves the toothpaste on the counter. Your thought might be they know I like things clean in the bathroom. Your assumption is my preferences don't matter or they don't respect me. Hurt and anger will soon follow. Your partner may have been thinking that they will leave the toothpaste out because they are wanting to show you that they care, knowing that you are going to brush your teeth soon ...

Making assumptions in couple's therapy can have negative consequences. True in our personal life as well. Think possibilities instead.

08/25/2026

A therapist's ponderings: Couple's Therapy Pt. 3
The danger of making assumptions.
Couple's session one (note: this is a vignette based on some of the most common issues present in the couple I see - not actual clients). Brenda and Barry come in for their first session with me. As they join the session via Zoom, I introduce myself. I notice that they are in the same room and are sitting on the couch together. Brenda is leaning toward the camera with a bit of distance between her and Barry. Barry is leaning back and seems a bit disconnected from the process. After sharing the limits of confidentiality with the couple I ask if they have any questions for me. Both shake their heads no.
Me: "What brings you into therapy today?" Brenda looks back at Barry.
Barry: "Why don't you go first because I obviously can't do anything right anyways."
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08/18/2026

Welcome to part 2 of couple's therapy. Before we meet Brenda and Barry there is one more talking point that is vital to all therapy and even more so couple's work; rapport. For deep work to occur, rapport is necessary and starts with the first contact. So, what is this thing called rapport? It is the concept of fostering a connection with another person based on mutual respect, understanding and trust. When these elements are present...
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