11/24/2023
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One of the most pervasive experiences of unresolved trauma is self-disconnect. It feels as though we have no ground or anchor within ourselves. Almost everything/or a lot, is sourced from the outside, particularly our sense of emotional safety, validation and our sense of self. Unresolved trauma is a felt experience where we operate in life with no or little foundation: of safety, embodiment and boundaries, of agency, of needs meeting and desires, of authentic expression. Living in this way for too long rewires our biology for survival. It pushes the system into control, inflammation and fear. Inhabiting our body becomes the experience our system most wants to escape from. So it makes sense why it’s so scary when we re-engage the body and the protections. PRACTICE SLOW DOWN, the pace of your life and the pace of your healing. The more you rush through life and healing, the more pressure the nervous system feels and the less capacity to receive, heal and integrate. Unresolved trauma comes with a sense of urgency to do something and change quickly. By slowing down, you make more space, see things clearer, engage your environment more, feel more, observe more and build the capacity to make choices less from that urgency and controlling state.