02/06/2026
BAD S*X
This topic came up and i thought I'd share this nugget with you guys here🫶
“bad s*x” is rarely a fixed trait. It’s usually unspoken needs, nerves, lack of feedback, or two people not yet synced.
If he checks every other box, the real questions are:
• Is he open to communication?
• Is he curious instead of defensive?
• Does he genuinely care about your pleasure?
Because technique can be learned. Ego can’t.
It’s also important that she knows how to articulate her desires and pleasures. Good s*x is co-created. If you don’t know what you want or feel safe asking for it, that matters too.
If you can talk openly, explore together, and he’s receptive, there’s a lot of room for glow-ups in the bedroom.
If he shuts down, gets weird, or doesn’t care… that’s the real red flag, not the dick game.
You’re not wrong to want good s*x and a good man. Just don’t decide too early which one this is.
Also worth saying, from someone who literally does this work: s*xual connection is learned and co-created. I’m a tantra-based intimacy guide, and I see this all the time. When two people feel safe and curious with each other, things can change a lot.
