08/18/2026
I think we’re really quick to turn struggles into personality traits.
Someone has trouble getting started? Lazy.
They get overwhelmed easily? Too sensitive.
They can’t stay engaged? They don’t care.
They need more support? They’re not trying hard enough.
But those labels don’t actually tell us anything about what’s going on.
I’d rather ask, “What’s making this hard?”
Because once you understand the why, you can actually figure out what might help.
Judgment doesn’t give someone a strategy. Understanding can.