Unravel Relationships

06/13/2026

We get so many things wrong about red flags.

My thesis research included studying how ‘learning a list of red flags’ is not helpful and can actually make you less likely to see them. Here’s what you need to know…

https://www.unravelunfiltered.com/p/why-you-cant-see-red-flags?r=6q5fzt

08/21/2025

When you silence your internal truth, shrink your needs, or perform a version of yourself (false self) to keep someone close, you’re not loving; you’re bargaining.

You’re sacrificing your Self for connection. And no matter how accepted you seem, you know it’s not you they love—it’s the mask.

08/04/2025

08/01/2025

Intermittent Reinforcement is considered one of the most powerful and successful ways to control behavior.

It’s common. It’s dangerous. It’s easy to get sucked in, even when you know better. This is how trauma bonds are formed.

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07/31/2025

Did you know that fear releases oxytocin - the bonding drug? This is why scary movies make great first dates.

This also helps toxic abuse create strong attachments between victim and abuser. When someone can’t leave an abusuve relationship, it’s not weakness or desperation, it’s a powerful psychological connection they don’t know how to escape.

Breaking a trauma bond is incredibly difficult, and can feel more painful than the abuse itself.

07/30/2025

These are my two core values, and the foundation of everything I’m building with UNRAVEL. It’s not just about being kind—it’s about being honest, and doing both with integrity.

Because what if the real magic happens when we stop making excuses for our impact AND stop shaming people for their mistakes?

When we eliminate the shame, people are more likely to be honest, especially with themselves.

07/30/2025

It doesn’t have to look cruel or be toxic to cause harm. Most of the time, it’s quiet, unintentional, and might even look happy.

But if something feels off or confusing at times, if you’re regularly talking yourself through doubts, there may be unhealthy dynamics at play.

07/30/2025

It’s always easier to spot red flags when they’re not yours. That’s why Bob & Sally are here.

Through their stories of conflict, denial, confusion, and self-doubt, they’ll help you make sense of what’s happening, how it works, and why it’s so hard to see.

07/30/2025

UNRAVEL is for anyone who’s ever been in a relationship that doesn’t feel right—whether you know it’s emotionally abusive or it’s happy-ish but at times something feels off.

When you’re confused, second-guessing, or feeling like it’s your fault, and you don’t have to have the words for it yet. That’s what this space is for: to help you start making sense it all.