29/08/2026
I know it’s well meaning, obviously it is… no one is saying this to be dismissive, but what if it is?
When a mom is actually struggling and she hears “it’s okay, you’ve got this,” what she hears underneath it is push through, handle it, don’t tell me the truth.
We support moms by buying out their registries and throwing baby showers. But maybe the real support isn’t the stuff at all. Maybe it’s someone actually saying, maybe you do need help, maybe you do need to talk to someone, maybe you actually aren’t okay. And maybe that’s okay too, because it’s not about fixing you, it’s about being seen and moved toward the help you actually need.
So instead of “it’s okay, you’ve got this,” try, this is really hard, you don’t have to do this alone, and ask her what she actually needs.