19/06/2026
Friendship is a strange part of healing.
Some people are blessed with friendships that become their safe harbour during life’s storms. The kind of friends who sit beside you in the messy moments. The ones who let you cry, rage, grieve, question everything and still love you through it.
The ones who understand that sometimes you’re not at your best because life is asking everything of you.
Those friendships are a gift.
But not all of us experience friendship that way.
Sometimes healing reveals the places where we’ve accepted less than we deserved.
Sometimes the deeper we move into grief, heartbreak, loss, awakening or transformation, the more we realise who is willing to walk beside us… and who only felt comfortable with the version of us that stayed quiet.
For me, one of the hardest lessons was realising that finding my voice came with consequences.
When you’ve spent a lifetime silencing your needs, your first attempts at expressing hurt, setting boundaries or speaking your truth rarely come out perfectly polished. They come out shaky. Emotional. Human.
And sometimes the people who were comfortable with your silence struggle with your honesty.
Not every friendship survives that.
For a long time, I questioned myself. Wondered if I should have said less. Needed less. Felt less.
But healing has taught me this:
I deserved friendships that showed up.
I deserved friendships that were curious about my pain rather than defensive about it.
I deserved friendships that could hold space for imperfection, just as I held space for theirs.
And so do you.
If you’ve outgrown friendships, if you’ve been left behind during difficult seasons, or if you’ve discovered that some relationships only worked when you abandoned yourself to keep the peace…
I see you.
Not every friendship is meant to last forever.
Some friendships are for a chapter.
Others are for a lifetime.
And sometimes losing the wrong friendships creates space for the right ones to finally arrive.
The ones built on reciprocity, honesty, compassion and grace.
The ones where you never have to shrink yourself to belong. 🤍
