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Elaine Louise Stewart Coach

I'm a life, health and Enneagram coach. I work with women in their 50's+ to answer the question, "Who am I at this stage of my life."
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I work with women in their 60's and beyond to live their life by design and not by default. We address life and health issues to let go of the roadblocks that hold us back from living our lives full out!

07/09/2026

Many women don't trust themselves because they've spent years looking outside themselves for answers. Seeking approval. Trying to make the "right" decision.
Worrying about disappointing someone.

Over time, their own inner voice becomes harder to hear.
The good news is that your inner wisdom doesn't disappear.

It simply gets buried beneath years of conditioning, expectations and noise.

In my newest YouTube video:
How to Reconnect With Your Inner Voice Again

We explore:
-Why self-trust can be rebuilt
-How your inner wisdom gets buried beneath conditioning
-Small practices that can help restore clarity

One of the most important things I've learned is that self-trust isn't built by being perfect. It's built by listening to yourself, one small decision at a time.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/8pjPNLtFCzQ

I'd love to know: Do you tend to trust your own judgment, or do you find yourself looking to others for answers first?

Please let me know in the comments below.

07/02/2026

Many women don't realize they're carrying resentment. They think they're just tired, or overwhelmed, or frustrated.

But resentment often develops when we've spent years putting everyone else's needs ahead of our own. Especially saying yes when we mean no. Taking responsibility for things that don't belong to us.

Ignoring what we need in order to keep everyone else comfortable and eventually something inside begins to push back.

Why? Because you've been disconnected from yourself for too long.

In my newest YouTube video, I'm talking about:

The Hidden Resentment Women Carry for Years
I explore:
-Why resentment is often a signal, not a flaw
-How losing yourself creates the conditions for resentment
-Why reconnecting with yourself creates freedom

If you've ever thought, "I'm tired of holding it all," this video may speak to you.
Watch here https://youtu.be/gL6NZxKX_nI

Have you ever discovered that resentment was trying to tell you something important? Please comment below. I would love to know.

06/25/2026

"I know why I do it... so why do I keep doing it?"

I've heard some version of this from so many women.

And honestly, it's one of the most frustrating parts of personal growth.

You understand your patterns. You know where they came from. You've done the work.

And yet, sometimes you still find yourself reacting the same way. Many women assume this means they're failing. I don't think that's true.

I think it means there's a difference between understanding yourself and staying connected to yourself in the moment when life happens.

That's what I talk about in my newest video:

🎥 Why Therapy Helped You Understand Yourself But You Still Feel Stuck

In it, I explore why insight matters, why it isn't always enough by itself, and what real change often looks like.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/PEurE9DMcv8
You’ve done brave things before. This is just the next step.

06/18/2026

The guilt is exhausting. Not necessarily the guilt of doing something wrong.

The guilt of putting yourself first. The guilt of disappointing someone. The guilt of saying no.

Many women have spent so many years taking care of everyone else that saying yes becomes automatic.

And eventually they find themselves feeling:

💛 Exhausted
💛 Resentful
💛 Overwhelmed
💛 Disconnected from what they actually want

The problem isn't that they don't know how to set boundaries. The problem is that they've learned to ignore themselves.

In my newest YouTube video:
🎥 How to Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

I talk about why this happens and how to begin changing it—one small choice at a time.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/DPiFNjfFCtE
You’ve done brave things before. This is just the next step.

06/10/2026

Have you ever looked at your life and wondered:
"Is this really my life?"

Many women reach midlife and feel confused by what they're experiencing.
They've spent years caring for others, meeting responsibilities and doing everything they thought they were supposed to do.

And then one day they realize - something's missing.

I don't think this means something is wrong. I think it often means something important is happening.

What feels like an identity crisis may actually be an invitation to reconnect with parts of yourself that have been waiting patiently for your attention.

In my newest video:
🎥 Why Midlife Can Trigger an Identity Crisis
I talk about:
💛 Why life transitions can feel so unsettling
💛 How years of caregiving and responsibility can lead to self-disconnection
💛 Why reinvention begins from the inside out
Watch here: https://youtu.be/d8uNdJXqYEA

You’ve done brave things before.
This is just the next step.

06/03/2026

Have you ever found yourself reacting to something and later wondering: "Why did that bother me so much?"

Many women assume their reactions mean they're too sensitive, overreacting or should know better by now.

I see it differently.

Often, our emotional triggers are connected to patterns we learned long ago—patterns that once helped us feel safe, accepted, or protected.

The problem isn't that we learned them. It's that we often don't realize they're still running in the background.

There is nothing wrong with you. Understanding your emotional patterns isn't about blaming yourself. It's about understanding yourself.

I talk about this in my newest YouTube video:
🎥 The Hidden Reason You Keep Getting Triggered
Watch here: https://youtu.be/v0hHNDo_wws

You’ve done brave things before. This is just the next step.

05/27/2026

Why You Can’t Stop Replaying What Went Wrong

Have you ever replayed something in your mind over and over - a conversation, a decision, a mistake and no matter how much time passes, you still find yourself thinking about it?

“What should I have done differently?” “Why did I do that?”
“Why can’t I let this go?”

Many women assume this means they are overthinking, emotionally weak, or unable to move on. But I don’t think that’s what’s actually happening. I think many times we replay things because something inside us still hasn’t been heard.

The Decisions We Make “From the Neck Up”

Years ago, I sold a Honda that I absolutely loved. Logically, the decision made sense. Financially, it looked like the right thing to do.
But emotionally, I wasn’t ready. I didn’t pause long enough to ask myself how I actually felt about the decision before making it.

For weeks, I mentally punished myself for making what felt like an impulsive decision. Looking back now, I don’t think I was replaying it because of the car itself. I think I was replaying it because I abandoned my emotional self in the decision-making process.
I listened to logic. But I didn’t listen to how I felt inside.

Why Emotional Awareness Matters

Many women become extremely skilled at making practical decisions. Responsible, efficient, logical decisions.
But over time, we can become disconnected from our emotional world and stop including ourselves fully in our own lives. And when that happens, a part of us often stays emotionally unresolved. That unresolved feeling is what keeps replaying.

A Different Experience

Years later, I had another painful decision to make. My fourteen-year-old cat became very ill. At the veterinary appointment, we discovered she had an ulcerated tumor in the roof of her mouth. Part of me wanted to end her suffering immediately. The veterinarian could have done that right then.

But thankfully, I had another option: I could bring her back the next day. That extra day changed everything. I held her. Talked to her. Cried with her. Loved her.

And the next day, with a broken heart, I let her go. The decision was still painful. But this time, I didn’t leave my emotional self behind. I gave my emotions time to catch up to reality.

Why We Replay Things

Often, replaying the past is not about weakness. It’s about emotional in-completion. Something inside us is still asking: “Will you listen to me this time?” Maybe grief was ignored. Maybe fear was ignored. Maybe regret was ignored. Maybe your deeper knowing was ignored. And that part of you keeps resurfacing because it still wants acknowledgment.

Questions That Change Everything

Instead of asking: “Why can’t I let this go?” Try asking: “What part of me wasn’t heard?” That question changes the relationship you have with yourself. Because now you’re no longer fighting your emotions. You’re listening to them. And often, that’s where healing begins.

If You’re Ready to Go Deeper

My free webinar: Why You Don’t Feel Like Yourself Anymore — And How to Find Your Way Back is June 2. Learn more here if you are interested. https://tinyurl.com/ej7b26ax

01/07/2026

You Will Never “Find” Time — You Must Claim It

“You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.” – Charles Burton

If you’re like most women in this stage of life, your days are full — yet somehow your heart still feels empty.

You may be proud of how much you juggle. You answer emails while making dinner. You think about tomorrow while finishing today. You squeeze in everyone else’s needs before you even notice your own. From the outside, it looks like a life that is handled.

But on the inside?

There’s often a quiet ache: Why am I so busy… and still not doing what matters most to me?

We’ve been taught that “managing time” means getting more done. Multitasking. Pushing harder. Crossing off the small things so we can someday get to the big things. The truth is, our brains aren’t wired for this. Every switch drains energy. Every distraction fragments your focus. And by the end of the day, you’ve done a thousand little things — but not the one that would have moved your life forward.

I want to ask you something:

Does the way you use your time expand you… or slowly diminish you?

Because time isn’t just a resource.
It’s your life.

And none of us want to arrive at the end wishing we had made space for connection, creativity, nature, laughter or the dreams we once held in our hearts.

If you’ve tried to “find” time for yourself and keep coming up empty, please know this isn’t a failure. It’s an invitation.

You don’t need more hours.
You need permission to claim the ones you already have.

Reflection:
What is one small piece of time you could reclaim this week — not for productivity, but for you?

Courage doesn’t begin with big leaps.
It begins with choosing what matters — and making time for it.

Share in the comment section what small piece of time you claimed for YOU.

01/06/2026

“Personal growth lies within the unknown; courage permits you to explore this space.” – Yogi Teabag

What makes personal growth feel so unsettling — especially now, when you thought you’d already done the hard work of becoming who you are?

Maybe it’s because real growth asks you to look inside instead of pushing forward. It asks you to notice what you actually feel, not just what you’re willing to show. It may mean telling a truth you’ve kept quiet for decades or recognizing patterns you truly believed you’d left behind long ago.

Some parts of you are easy to embrace: your kindness, your loyalty, the love you’ve poured into others, the life you’ve built. But beneath that bright surface live the tender places — the regrets, the old grief, the punishing self-talk, the stories that still tell you that you should stay small. These parts don’t make you wrong. They make you human.

They often show up in subtle ways: over-giving until you’re exhausted, keeping the peace at your own expense, feeling strangely invisible in your own life and wondering, How did I get here?

Avoiding these feelings can feel safer in the short term. But over time, you begin to drift away from yourself — until one day you barely recognize the woman in the mirror.

The truth is, you don’t need to become someone new in 2026. You’re being invited to finally, fully meet yourself.

The hard things you’ve lived through weren’t mistakes. They were teachers. When you look at your memories with adult eyes, with compassion instead of judgment, something remarkable happens. You don’t fall apart — you come home. You reclaim parts of yourself that were never lost, only waiting.

And courage? You don’t need to go find it. You’ve been using it your whole life. You’ve simply forgotten how much of it you already have.

Here are three things you can do to help you on your journey.
🌿 Journal Prompt
Where in my life do I feel smaller than I truly am — and what might that part of me be trying to protect?

🌿 Micro-Action (Daily for 7 days)
Once a day, pause and ask yourself: “What do I need right now?” Then give yourself one small act of kindness that meets that need.

🌿 Affirmation
“I am allowed to see myself clearly and love myself fully — light and shadow, all of me.”

01/05/2026

“Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.” – Sydney J. Harris

If you’re a woman in your third stage of life, this quote may feel uncomfortably familiar. You’ve done so much for others, carried responsibilities, weathered losses and now you find yourself hoping that somehow life will just get better without asking too much of you.

But hope alone doesn’t create change.

What creates change is action — small, imperfect, sometimes uncomfortable steps that interrupt old patterns and open the door to something new. Growth rarely feels neat or easy. It comes with uncertainty, second-guessing and moments where you wonder if it’s even worth it.

And yet, those moments are the doorway to a life that feels more like yours.

So here is the real question for today:

Are you willing to feel a little uncomfortable in order to finally create the life you want?

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