Nikki Temkin Integrative Wellness Coach

15/04/2026

04/03/2026

Are you inhaling and absorbing too much information? Find the balance between knowing too much and too little to avoid overwhelm. Ps. Sweat post tennis & sweat is good!

19/02/2026

I just did another workshop for on Mental Resilience. Loved every minute of it! 💛

17/02/2026

26/01/2026

Link to my article on Wellness Trends in The Sunday Times and a little on some of what my Workplace Wellness consists of:

You ’ve braved the ice baths, nootropics and red-light saunas — but what’s new in the world of wellness?

26/01/2026

My article yesterday in The Sunday Times on Wellness Trends including some info on what I do in Workplace Wellness. https://www.sundaytimes.timeslive.co.za/lifestyle/2026-01-23-top-six-wellness-trends-for-

21/01/2026

Why I 🩷 tennis…because it’s:
1. Fun
2. Given me power of mind, body and spirit.
3. HIIT exercise (high intensity interval training)
4. Danish studies found that people who play tennis live on average 9 years longer! Better than any other sport .
5. Outside in the sun.
6. Good for cardiovascular fitness, coordination, balance, joints, bones, muscle strength and flexibility.

🎾Tennis is a metaphor for LIFE because:
1. You have to be in the present moment.
2. There’s no time to ruminate on the precious shot or dwell on mistakes, you just move onto the next point
3. It’s about always looking ahead and just going for it and playing every point as if it’s the only point.
4. It’s about mental resilience -the battle is psychological. Strength of body and strength of mind.
5. The game can change in an instant but you have to stay in the game mentally and physically
6. It’s a mixture of natural innate talent, hard work, practice, self believe and most of all emotional intelligence.
7. It’s strategic, you have to plan before and in the moment but be very adaptable.

Ps. My tennis story starts at 6 years old to around 18 where I played at school and in teams and almost every day.
….I didn’t pick up a racket again until I was 47! I’m going into my 4th year of playing again and I play better than I did then. 🎾 We usually still love the things we did as children. What can you start up again?

06/01/2026

06/01/2026

Every person we become close to and depend on will eventually trigger something at some point in us (even if it’s minor and infrequent).

Our triggers (the things that activate us) are meaningful information about ourselves — information that deserves to be explored with compassion.

Our triggers can help us understand what’s important to us.

They can bring to surface feelings and experiences that were not initially given the space to fully integrate.

Getting curious about what a trigger is revealing about us, and sharing that information with safe people can be a really powerful bridge for connection.

How triggers are expressed (and responded to) are essential to developing healthy relating.

Here are some prompts to help you explore further when you become triggered/activated:
💫 Am I sharing my experience without attacking or blaming?
💫 Am I clearly expressing what I need?
💫 Do I take the time to explore what my trigger is connected to before sharing?
💫 Do I apologize/repair if I express myself in harsh/critical ways?
💫 Do I give myself permission to (feel) my feelings and allow myself to be witnessed?

Here are some prompts to help you notice how people respond to you when you share:
✨ Do they respond to me with care and sensitivity when I share my triggers in a non-blaming way?
✨ Do they make effort to understand/be curious about my experience?
✨ Do they share their own pain and triggers with me at times?
✨ Do I feel somewhat calmer/more connected to myself/them after I share the root of my trigger?

These prompts are an initial guide.

There is a deeply important discernment process within this exploration.

If you’re doing your own work and still feel like something is feeling off in your relationship, then other skills sometimes need to be developed (or your red flag alert system may be alerting you).

Your triggers are about you .. AND .. how they are managed/empathized with relationally matters a whole lot too.
// Silvy Khoucasian

08/10/2025