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12/06/2026

Praying for your partner

Give healthy partners , I said healthy partners the grace they deserve . Give partners who are led by spirit the respect they deserve , Pray for the partner that doesn’t want to see you suffer.

It is foolish to keep praying for a partner that is led by their ego. Pray for yourself on how to deal with the situation.

She is born soft and nurturing but hardened by the world and he is born confident but shrunken by the world , so they both need to be led by light because world especially in times of social media will destroy them if they forget that marriage is a covenant and it’s not a group assignment.

Prayer warriors be praying for an adult that cheats , why do you do that , people know what they are doing.
You better know what you are doing.

Camagu 🙏🏾

11/06/2026

Never play with people who were sent to help you when no one was there for you .

11/06/2026

Trusting God and getting “IT”

Tell me the logic behind having people in your life that are only around when you are going through a good phase and as soon as you go through tough times they distance themselves?

Tell me why do you betray the people that lifted you up when you were at your lowest and once you rise you leave them behind ?

People are here for seasons, reasons and and lessons and I keep reminding myself this all the time when I question the above .

When their time is done they will leave no matter how much you thought you still needed them, some will exist dramatically, others silently but when it’s time for the next phase of our lives and they are not part of that phase they will go. I’m not going to cry about betrayal and all the not so nice things I’ve experienced from humans I’ll just understand that it was time , there was a reason and what lessons do I take forward with me , just to free myself.

Lesedi Kganya 🙏🏾

10/06/2026

Healing goes together with Justice.

What that Justice is depends on the victim, being heard might be enough, being believed , being supported.

So whenever someone tells you how traumatic an event is please don't tell them how to react or say it's not a big deal , it's not that deep. I found myself one time when a soul sister told me how an incident that involved me made her uncomfortable and I said it wasn't that deep and I'm glad she firmly said to me " it might not be that deep to you but it is to me " at that moment I retreated and reflected on my words and moved away from the ego that told me I was being attacked and she was sensitive but I saw how that particular incident hurt her and whether or not I meant to hurt her or not was irrelevant, she was hurt and it was deep for her.

From that day onwards I'm very intentional about validating ones emotions, I'm glad we still hold each other spaces to this day , bless her soul.

Love and light

Ps Keeping Gcina's family in our prayers and may Justice be served 🙏

I hate poverty with a passion , I hate to see women overworked and I built a concept to adress a few things that I’m pas...
09/06/2026

I hate poverty with a passion , I hate to see women overworked and I built a concept to adress a few things that I’m passionate about .

1. Healing and wellness space for women.
2. Job creation opportunities that allow women to earn a living while healing, employees mainly from Healing with Boogie.
3. Supporting my descendants both financially and emotionally as my daughter is running Bulwatha.
4. I’ve often spoken about women needing rest and I hope you’ll support our small business and bring our vision alive

www.bulwatha.com

08/06/2026

Ask anyone who knows me, I’m almost always on time.

I grew up in a home with so much routine that everything was done at a specific time , like you wouldn’t just start making dinner at anytime , we ate at a certain time , woke up at a specific time and the gate and doors were locked at a specific time.

I took this into my adult life in all areas of my life , if we have a coffee date at 08am be sure to be at the cafe’ door at 08:00, if I need to go to the mall with my kids I tell them what time we leave.

I hated those rules so much growing up and they were so rigid , so I decided in my house there’s days a bit of flexibility where supper is a little later than the usual 6pm or earlier .

So people who get invited by me to our home know that lunch is always at 12pm and that’s it . If I’m invited I ask the host if the time on the invitation is the real time or African time because I have social awkwardness and I hate not knowing what to do with myself while waiting.

So keeping time for me is deep, it means I value your time and that you could have spent the time doing something else but chose to spend it with me , it means I respect you to not keep you waiting . I appreciate someone who will send me a text to say “Hi Boogie I’ll be 10mins late because of traffic “, I can use that ten minutes reading a chapter on my current read or make a phone call to someone I’ve been meaning to check up on .

I recently had to excuse myself from an organisation that I love that I was volunteering to mentoring young women because I found myself overcommitted and it didn’t feel right because there were times I couldn’t attend and my word is my honour and I felt like a fraud. Or I’ll be reporting that I’ll be joining late or have to leave early. It wasn’t okay , it didn’t sit well with my spirit so ja time is very important because we cannot recover it .

I use to take it personally and felt disrespected when someone kept me waiting , now I understand that respect is different for different people.

One thing about my clients when I have an appointment with them I can tell if they’ll make it on time or not before they even arrive . They’ll be puffing and huffing and I’ll be so chilled because why nine drama 😄, you knew you were supposed to be on time manje sowuyatatazela and I need you to calm down so that we can work . Angithi bowulele so Woza nobuvila bakho ungazenzi into esheshayo have the same laziness energy tu 😄

This reminds me of one of my clients who’s always late for everything at the retreats and she will take her time to bath and come waltzing in 😄and that’s who she is , she moves with ease nje she’s so unbothered, the unhealed version of me would have made it about me but kanti that’s her she’s got these beautiful big eyes that has some “ ndiyazazi ndizalwa ngobani “ energy . One thing I do I continue with the program asthole ngendlela unless we have to wait for her for prayer or meditation.

What are things that you used to make about you but realised with growth that they have absolutely nothing to do with you ?

Think about that and stop sweating the small stuff.

Lesedi Kganya 🙏🏾

07/06/2026

As a divorced and remarried parent who is parallel parenting, I have so much peace in how I’m navigating that part of my life .

First of all my husband and my ex’s wife don’t have to deal with any drama from either of us. We are not enemies and we are not friends that is very clear. I respect his boundaries and he respects mine . If I need to speak to him about anything it’s never in the evening and most of the time it is a straight to the point whatssap message.

When my child got in injured I called him because he needed to authorise the admission , otherwise I would have sent a message.

There’s no wrong or right way to navigate this but I always choose peace , I don’t want to know what’s happening in his life, where he lives and infact I even create distance from all his people. I don’t want to know that he’s bought a villa in Italy or his wife is a billionaire because that’s absolutely none of my business.

I don’t tell him how to parent , I mean how he disciplines and how he entertains as long as there’s no direct harm I don’t see why I need to tell him how to be a parent because no one tells me how to parent.

One thing my kids will always know is that they are loved , they might not be loved the same way because people love differently but they are definitely loved regardless of how the other parent moves. I’m not discussing any maintenance issues with kids , it’s absolutely none of their business.

My kids will never hear how bad the other parent is because my kids didn’t choose the bad parent I’m the one who failed to choose a good one , if I believe they are bad then I’m the one who needs to carry the burden of my bad choices.

Another thing people can be not great partners but great parents which a lot of people fail to acknowledge that both can exist in one human.

I’m just this person , I’m not relevant and important in my ex’s life and I respect my marriage and his marriage.

I have however seen how well other people coparent well and I love it for them . In short do what brings you peace of mind.

This post is sparked by about two exes who just bashed each other on a podcast and they share a child , why is the poor child in the middle of adult mess ?

All I know my kids deserve a healed Mama

Love and light 🙏🏾

05/06/2026

My 17yr old attempted to take me on for being on his case about whether or not he is studying and told me he doesn’t like being treated like that.

I told him that if his teacher did not tell me that he missed an assignment deadline I wouldn’t be on his case and that the treatment he’s getting he deserves it , and whether or not he likes it his feelings are not the main issue here but his behaviour which is lack of accountability and trying to turn the situation around and make me the villain here is what we are going to discuss.

I further told him that he’s almost a man and that soon he’ll have a partner and that when he gets the treatment that matches his behaviour he’ll start saying the partner has no peace and I told him I’m raising a man that will take accountability for his actions and he will not manipulate me.

Why am I sharing this- I want him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions and not see being held accountable as a form of attack and start playing victim . I hope I get this parenting right at some point because all I know is that these kids will have to live with other people later in life.

He later came to the bedroom to apologise , I hope he becomes an honourable man who will see his faults and work on them and not see being held accountable as a personal attack.

God save the children 🙏🏾

04/06/2026

I remember in one of the retreats we were talking about what showing up means for us as women , what I spoke about is surrounding yourself with women who won’t care that you feel and look like a mess when you are going through stuff and that they will come and not care if you’ve managed to clean your home but will show up for you and that you shouldn’t be friends with people who will judge you in moments of vulnerability. I’m known to be neat but trust me that’s the last thing on my mind if my circle is going through the most is how clean the house is.

And I want to take this opportunity to thank all my sisters who showed up for me in the last few months of trials , the ones who said “ I can feel you are not okay “ the ones who called , the ones who insisted on coming over , the ones who said “ I’m at the door please open “ , my spiritual sister who helped me facilitate the retreat even though I had a lot on my plate, I took a group of women to a healing retreat while going through stuff in January because the healing assignment is bigger than my issues. I had to excuse myself from the mourning mattress to go spend more than an hour on the phone to give hope to someone who had lost hope because the assignment is bigger than what I was going through. I had to host an angel Mother’s Day brunch while my gran was critically ill and was told there’s nothing more they can do for her because the assignment was bigger than what I was going through .

A healer’s journey is a very challenging one and requires selflessness because you can never say no I won’t attend to this situation because I’m dealing with my own issues, I even remember I was admitted once and I had to continue doing the work while in a ward , the lady I shared the ward with has become a very close sister to me , her people wanted my people to help her through me while admitted, we now share a beautiful sisterhood.

I’ve entered a new year on the 1st of June and starting another trip around the sun with so much hope nenkani which is necessary.

So this journey is not what it looks like and some wish they were chosen for it not knowing it’s not easy , one thing that comes with it is the peace in your heart and soul.

Whatever you do mtanedlozi don’t give up , futhi hambemanzini kuyabanda yebo kodwa hambemanzini.

Camagu

01/06/2026

As I start this new year

May I never ever forget where my gifts come from , may I never think it is my intelligence that put me where I am , may I forever have the wisdom to honour where everything comes from.

May I always stay humble , may I always handle what has been given to me with the outmost care, may I not use my positions of power to abuse others but to empower them to be better versions of themselves.

May I represent my guides with the outmost integrity and continue serving the God in me with intention and carry out all my assignments with the deepest commitment.

May I stay away from everything that triggers parts of me that hinder my spiritual growth, in my anger may I not be mean, hateful and vengeful.

May I always remember that I’m not here to stay but a visitor in this lifetime and I’m here to shine light into the lives of those seeking it.

I am a healer , prayer is my fuel and water is all that I am and I’m guided by spirit.

Lesedi Kganya 🙏🏾

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