Zohar Ve'Adinut

26/05/2026

22/05/2026

SHE WAS ME... - BY Sondré Kroeze

She sat quietly at the kitchen table long after everyone had gone to bed.

The house was finally silent.

No demands.
No noise.
No pressure to keep everyone happy for a few stolen moments.

And yet… her chest still felt heavy.

She stared into her cold cup of coffee wondering when she had become so emotionally exhausted.

Not physically tired.
Soul tired.

For years, she had been “the strong one.”

The understanding one.
The patient one.
The peacemaker.
The helper.
The woman who kept everything together even while falling apart inside.

She learned very young that keeping people happy kept her safe.

So she became who everyone needed her to be.

She said “yes” when she wanted to say “no.”
She apologized for things that were never her fault.
She ignored the knots in her stomach.
The exhaustion in her body.
The quiet ache in her heart.

Because somewhere deep inside, she believed:
“If everyone else is okay… then maybe I’ll finally be okay too.”

But one day something changed.

She realized she had spent her whole life abandoning herself to avoid losing other people.

And for the first time…
she asked herself a question nobody had ever taught her to ask:

“What do I need?”

That question changed everything.

Healing did not happen overnight.

There were tears.
Boundaries.
Loneliness.
Guilt.
Growth.
And moments where choosing herself felt terrifying.

But slowly, she stopped shrinking.

She stopped apologizing for taking up space.
She stopped carrying responsibility for everyone else’s emotions.
She stopped believing love had to be earned through suffering.

And somewhere in the middle of her healing…

She found herself again.

This is why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

Because I know what it feels like to live in survival mode.
I know what it feels like to lose yourself trying to keep the peace.

And I also know healing is possible.

🤍 You are not weak for surviving.
🤍 You are not broken for struggling.
🤍 You deserve to exist without abandoning yourself.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

22/05/2026

“How do you heal from Fawn Mode… when your nervous system was taught that survival meant abandoning yourself?”

This is one of the hardest parts of healing.

Because Fawn Mode is not just people-pleasing.
It is a trauma response.

It is what happens when your nervous system learns:
“Keeping others happy keeps me safe.”

So you become:
✨ The peacemaker
✨ The helper
✨ The emotionally available one
✨ The one who over-explains
✨ The one who says “yes” while silently hurting inside

And after years of this, you may not even recognize your own needs anymore.

You may feel guilty for:
💔 Resting
💔 Saying no
💔 Having boundaries
💔 Choosing yourself
💔 Taking up space
💔 Disappointing others

But healing begins the moment you realize this:

You were never meant to survive by disappearing.

✨ SO HOW DO YOU BEGIN TO HEAL FROM FAWN MODE?

✔ Start listening to your body
Pay attention to where you feel tension, anxiety, exhaustion, or resentment. Your body often speaks before your voice does.

✔ Learn to pause before automatically saying “yes”
Ask yourself:
“Do I genuinely want to do this… or am I afraid of disappointing someone?”

✔ Practice small boundaries
Healing does not begin with huge changes.
It begins with small moments of choosing yourself.

✔ Stop over-explaining your needs
You do not need to justify your boundaries to deserve them.

✔ Reconnect with your identity
Spend time learning:
What do YOU enjoy?
What do YOU feel?
What do YOU need?
What kind of life brings YOU peace?

✔ Understand that conflict is not always danger
A healthy relationship can survive honesty, boundaries, and emotional truth.

And most importantly…

You must stop believing that your worth is tied to how much of yourself you sacrifice for others.

🤍 Healing from Fawn Mode means learning that you are safe even when you disappoint people.

It means learning:
You can be kind without abandoning yourself.
You can love others without losing yourself.
You can set boundaries and still be worthy of love.

And that is exactly why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My mission is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, emotional pain, and survival-mode living through:
🤍 Coaching
🤍 Counseling guidance
🤍 Accountability
🤍 Healing worksheets
🤍 Faith-led healing
🤍 Nervous system support

You are not weak.
You are not broken.
You adapted to survive.

Now it’s time to heal, rebuild, and remember who you are.

💬 COMMENT BELOW:
What is one boundary you are learning to set for yourself?

📩 Follow and message me if you are ready to begin your healing journey.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

22/05/2026

“What if the reason you feel emotionally drained all the time… is because you’ve spent your entire life abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable?”

Fawn Mode is one of the most misunderstood trauma responses.

Because on the outside, it often looks like:
✨ Being kind
✨ Being helpful
✨ Being patient
✨ Being “easy-going”
✨ Always being there for everyone else

But internally?

It can feel like:
💔 Anxiety
💔 Emotional exhaustion
💔 Fear of disappointing people
💔 Guilt for setting boundaries
💔 Losing your identity trying to keep the peace

Many women living in Fawn Mode were taught from a young age that love had conditions attached to it.

So your nervous system learned:
“If I stay quiet… agreeable… useful… needed… maybe I’ll be safe. Maybe I’ll be loved.”

And over time, you stop asking:
“What do I need?”
Because survival taught you to focus on everyone else first.

⚠️ HOW TO IDENTIFY FAWN MODE IN YOURSELF:

1️⃣ You constantly say “yes” when you really want to say “no”
You fear conflict, rejection, or disappointing others.

2️⃣ You apologize excessively
Even for things that are not your fault.

3️⃣ You feel emotionally responsible for everyone around you
Their moods affect your peace, and you struggle to separate your emotions from theirs.

4️⃣ You ignore your own needs until you become emotionally overwhelmed
You give and give until burnout forces you to stop.

5️⃣ You struggle with boundaries
Because somewhere deep down, boundaries feel unsafe or “selfish.”

But here’s the truth:

Fawn Mode is not weakness.
It is survival.

Your nervous system adapted to protect you the best way it knew how.

✨ HOW DO YOU BEGIN TO HEAL?

✔ Learn to pause before automatically pleasing others
✔ Start asking yourself daily: “What do I feel? What do I need?”
✔ Practice small boundaries without guilt
✔ Stop over-explaining your “no”
✔ Understand that protecting your peace is not selfish
✔ Learn that you can be loving without self-abandonment

Healing begins when you realize:
You no longer have to disappear for others to feel comfortable.

And that is exactly why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My mission is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, emotional pain, and survival-mode living through:
🤍 Coaching
🤍 Counseling guidance
🤍 Accountability
🤍 Healing worksheets
🤍 Faith-led healing
🤍 Nervous system support

You are not “too much.”
You are not weak.
You are not broken.

You adapted to survive.
Now you deserve to heal.

💬 COMMENT BELOW:
Which sign of Fawn Mode do you struggle with most?

📩 Follow and message me if you are ready to begin your healing journey.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

21/05/2026

“What if the reason you feel emotionally exhausted all the time… is because you were taught that your worth depends on keeping everyone else happy?”

Fawn Mode can look “kind” on the outside.

But internally?
It can feel like anxiety, burnout, resentment, emotional exhaustion, people-pleasing, and slowly losing yourself while trying to avoid conflict.

Many women living in Fawn Mode do not even realize they are traumatically abandoning themselves every single day.

Because somewhere along the way, your nervous system learned:

“If I stay agreeable, helpful, needed, quiet, easy-going, or emotionally available… maybe I’ll be loved. Maybe I’ll be safe.”

And that survival response can follow you into adulthood, relationships, friendships, parenting, marriage, work environments, and even your relationship with yourself.

💔 THE RISKS OF LIVING IN FAWN MODE FOR TOO LONG:

• Chronic anxiety & emotional burnout
• Low self-worth & loss of identity
• Feeling emotionally responsible for everyone
• Difficulty setting boundaries
• Fear of rejection or abandonment
• Attracting emotionally unhealthy relationships
• Ignoring your own needs until your body forces you to stop
• Resentment, exhaustion, and emotional numbness

The hardest part?

Most people praise Fawn Mode.

They call you:
“The strong one.”
“The helpful one.”
“The selfless one.”
“The peacekeeper.”

While nobody notices how emotionally exhausted you truly are.

💡 HOW TO IDENTIFY FAWN MODE IN YOURSELF:

1️⃣ You apologize constantly
Even when you did nothing wrong.

2️⃣ You feel guilty for resting, saying no, or choosing yourself
Because your nervous system associates self-sacrifice with love.

3️⃣ You struggle to identify your own needs
You spend so much time focusing on others that you no longer know what YOU truly feel or need.

But healing changes everything.

✨ HOW DO YOU BEGIN TO CHANGE IT?

✔ Start asking yourself daily: “What do I need?”
✔ Practice healthy boundaries without over-explaining yourself
✔ Learn to tolerate disappointment from others without abandoning yourself
✔ Understand that conflict does not automatically mean danger
✔ Stop measuring your worth by how much you give away

You do not need to disappear to be loved.

You are allowed to exist fully.
You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to protect your peace.

And that is why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My mission is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, emotional pain, and survival-mode living through:
🤍 Coaching
🤍 Counseling guidance
🤍 Accountability
🤍 Healing worksheets
🤍 Faith-led healing
🤍 Nervous system support

You are not weak for struggling.
You adapted to survive.

Now it’s time to heal.

💬 COMMENT BELOW:
Did you recognize any signs of Fawn Mode in yourself?

📩 Follow and message me if you are ready to begin your healing journey.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

21/05/2026

“Do you avoid conflict at all costs… even when it’s hurting you?”

Not everyone responds to trauma by fighting.

Some people run.
Some shut down.
And some become so focused on keeping the peace that they lose themselves completely.

This is called Fawn Mode.

Fawn Mode is a trauma response where your nervous system learns that staying safe means:
• Pleasing others
• Avoiding conflict
• Over-explaining yourself
• Ignoring your own needs
• Keeping everyone else happy
• Struggling to say “no”
• Feeling responsible for other people’s emotions

For many women, this response began in childhood.

When love felt conditional…
When expressing emotions caused conflict…
When boundaries were ignored…
When survival depended on staying “good,” quiet, helpful, agreeable, or emotionally available to everyone else.

Your nervous system learned:
“If I keep people happy, maybe I’ll stay safe.”

And over time, you may stop recognizing your own needs completely.

💔 3 SIGNS YOU MAY BE LIVING IN FAWN MODE:

1️⃣ You struggle to say no
Even when something drains, hurts, or overwhelms you.

2️⃣ You fear disappointing people
You carry guilt for choosing yourself or setting boundaries.

3️⃣ You ignore your own emotions to care for everyone else
You constantly prioritize others while silently burning out inside.

But here’s what I need you to understand:

Fawn Mode is not weakness.
It is survival.

Your nervous system adapted to protect you the best way it knew how.

✨ SO HOW DO YOU BEGIN TO CHANGE IT?

✔ Start paying attention to where you abandon yourself for approval
✔ Practice saying small “no’s” without over-explaining
✔ Learn that boundaries do not make you selfish
✔ Allow yourself to feel anger, disappointment, and hurt instead of suppressing it
✔ Remind yourself daily: “I do not need to earn love by sacrificing myself.”

Healing begins when you realize:
You are allowed to take up space too.

And that is why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My mission is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, emotional pain, and survival-mode living through:
🤍 Coaching
🤍 Counseling guidance
🤍 Accountability
🤍 Healing worksheets
🤍 Faith-led healing
🤍 Nervous system support

You are not “too sensitive.”
You are not “too needy.”
You are not broken.

You learned to survive by becoming who others needed you to be.

Now it’s time to rediscover who YOU are.

💬 COMMENT BELOW:
Do you relate more to Fight Mode or Fawn Mode?

📩 Follow and message me if you are ready to begin your healing journey.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

21/05/2026

Part 2 - “DO YOU GET ANGRY QUICKLY… OR IS YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM STILL TRYING TO PROTECT YOU FROM WHAT ONCE HURT YOU?

Not every person in Fight Mode looks aggressive.

Sometimes Fight Mode looks like:

• Becoming defensive very quickly
• Feeling constantly on edge
• Struggling to trust people
• Overreacting to small things
• Needing control to feel safe
• Pushing people away before they can hurt you
• Feeling like you always have to protect yourself

For years, I thought I just had “anger issues.” But the truth was much deeper than that. My nervous system had learned through trauma and abuse that being alert, guarded, reactive, and ready to fight was the only way to survive.

Fight Mode is not just anger. It is a survival response. When a child grows up around fear, violence, emotional instability, criticism, rejection, or abuse, the body can become wired for protection instead of peace.

And even years later, your body may still react as if danger is everywhere — even when it isn’t.

💔 3 SIGNS YOU MAY BE LIVING IN FIGHT MODE:

1️⃣You become defensive very quickly Even gentle correction can feel like an attack.
2️⃣ You struggle to emotionally relax Your body feels tense, hyper-alert, irritated, or easily triggered.
3️⃣ You react before you process You may lash out, argue, shut people down, or feel intense anger before understanding what you actually feel underneath.

But here’s the important part: Fight Mode is not who you are. It is what your nervous system learned to do to keep you safe.

✨ SO HOW DO YOU BEGIN TO CHANGE IT?
✔ Start noticing your triggers instead of judging yourself for them ✔ Learn grounding techniques to calm your nervous system
✔ Pause before reacting and ask: “Do I need protection right now, or do I need healing?”
✔ Create safe environments and healthy boundaries
✔ Allow yourself to process the pain underneath the anger Healing begins when your body finally learns:

“I am safe now.”

And that is exactly why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My mission is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, emotional pain, and survival-mode living through:
🤍 Coaching
🤍 Counseling guidance
🤍 Accountability
🤍 Healing worksheets
🤍 Faith-led support
🤍 Nervous system healing tools You are not “too angry.” You are not “too much.

” You are not broken. You adapted to survive.

Now you deserve to heal.

💬 COMMENT BELOW:
Did this post describe you in any way?

📩 Follow and message me if you are ready to begin your healing journey.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

20/05/2026

“Have you ever stopped and asked yourself… why do I react the way I do when I feel hurt, rejected, unsafe, or triggered?”

For most of my life, my response was fight mode.

And for a long time, I judged myself for it.

I grew up experiencing physical abuse and trauma from a very young age and into my teenage years. Over time, my nervous system learned that the only way to stay safe was to always be ready to defend myself.

So I became strong.
Guarded.
Reactive.
Always prepared for the next emotional attack.

What people saw as anger…Was actually fear.

What looked like aggression…
Was actually survival.

I didn’t realize my body had been living in survival mode for years.

The truth is, trauma changes the nervous system.

Some people fight.
Some run.
Some shut down completely.
And some become people-pleasers just to avoid conflict.

These are called:
Fight.
Flight.
Freeze.
Fawn.

And over the next few posts, I want to gently walk you through each one — because understanding your trauma response can completely change the way you see yourself.

You are not “too emotional.”
You are not “crazy.”
You are not weak.

Your mind and body simply adapted to survive what hurt you.

But healing is possible.

Little by little, I’ve learned that I no longer have to live constantly in defense mode.
I can learn safety.
I can learn peace.
I can heal.

And that is exactly why I created Zohar Ve'Adinut.

My heart is to help women heal from trauma, abuse, shame, fear, self-destruction, and emotional pain through coaching, counseling guidance, accountability, healing tools, and faith-led support.

If this post resonates with you, I want you to know something:

You are not broken.
You are becoming.

💬 Which trauma response do you relate to most? Let me know in the comments.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn?

🤍 Follow for this healing series and share this with someone who needs to feel understood today.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

16/05/2026

There are stories people survive in silence because the scars are not always visible.
For a long time, I believed healing meant pretending I was okay. But healing truly began when I stopped hiding my pain and started allowing God to rebuild the parts of me that abuse tried to destroy.
Psychosexual abuse leaves confusion, shame, fear, emotional disconnection, and wounds that affect how you see yourself, love, trust, and even feel safe in your own body. Yet even in the deepest brokenness, healing is still possible.
My journey was not about becoming bitter.
It was about becoming whole.
It was about choosing faith over fear, boundaries over self-betrayal, and resilience over silence.
This is why I created a space where survivors can feel seen, heard, empowered, and reminded that they are not alone. A place where healing is approached with compassion, truth, wisdom, and grace.
You are not what happened to you.
You are still worthy of love.
You are still worthy of peace.
You are still worthy of joy.
From survivor to healer — this is my testimony. And if you are walking your own healing journey, know this: your story does not end in brokenness.
Healing is possible. 🤍

16/05/2026

I stopped fearing change when I realized staying the same was destroying me more.

The fear of starting over kept me trapped for years.
But nothing is more exhausting than pretending something still fits when your soul has already moved on years ago.

Some women are not lost.
They are simply waking up to the fact that they can no longer betray themselves just to keep others comfortable.

You are allowed to outgrow old versions of yourself.
You are allowed to evolve beyond the expectations people placed on you.
You are allowed to heal, rebuild, rediscover yourself, and begin again.

Your healing is not a betrayal to anyone.
It is a return to yourself.

Zohar Ve'Adinut was created for women entering a new season.
A season of healing.
A season of boundaries.
A season of self-worth, faith, restoration, and emotional freedom.

Through coaching, counseling guidance, accountability, healing worksheets, and faith-led transformation, my mission is to help women rise above trauma, shame, fear, abuse, and self-destruction — and step fully into the life they were created for.

✨ POWER QUOTE ✨

“Growth becomes possible the moment a woman stops fearing who she could become and starts grieving who she was trained to be by trauma.”

Like, Follow & Share this message with someone entering a new season.

Love,
Sondré Kroeze
Zohar Ve'Adinut

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