Dr. Saliha Afridi - Psychology

Dr. Saliha Afridi - Psychology Supporting you on your healing journey, so you can define life on your terms.
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As you heal there will be less suffering but not less pain.Pain belongs to being alive; suffering is often what happens ...
11/08/2026

As you heal there will be less suffering but not less pain.

Pain belongs to being alive; suffering is often what happens when we cannot tolerate, metabolize, or make room for that pain.

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As you heal, you don’t become less affected by life.
You become even more available to it.
Less defensive. More open. More affected.

You are more able to feel joy without bracing for its ending. Nothing lasts… not good times not bad times. Stop and savor the good times, breathe and rest as you go through difficult times.

You are more able to love without protecting yourself from loss. And oh the loss hurts so much but as you heal you realize you can bear it and love it worth it.

You are more able to grieve without being destroyed by grief. You realize that grief is part of a life well lived. There is grief in almost every moment- the ache that each day and all that is in it will come to an end and will never come again.

As you heal.. your open heart will be more able to experience beauty, awe, tenderness, disappointment, longing and heartbreak….and you will realize this is what makes life worth living.

The armor that kept pain out also kept life out.
Healing allows you to live without the armor. You can always put it back on if you need to protect yourself but you no longer are fused to it.

Healing means you can have a direct experience of life.

When you’re in the middle of transformation the breaking, dissolving, or dark night… it can feel like failure, regressi...
10/08/2026

When you’re in the middle of transformation the breaking, dissolving, or dark night… it can feel like failure, regression, or even death.

But what’s actually happening is rebirth.

If you don’t understand that breaking open is part of becoming, you’ll resist it. You’ll cling to the old self, the old life bc its safe and familiar.

Healing is not just feeling the pain.
It is staying as you feel the pain.Staying when the ache
asks to be numbed, explai...
12/06/2026

Healing is not just feeling the pain.
It is staying as you feel the pain.

Staying when the ache
asks to be numbed, explained, or avoided.

Because what transforms you
is not the intensity of what you feel…but your willingness
to remain in relationship with it.

This is important because your capacity to stay with your pain
becomes your capacity to stay in relationship.

If you can’t stay with discomfort,
you will leave…
emotionally or physically…
when things get hard.

And then call it
“incompatibility,”
“timing,”
or “they weren’t right.”

But often, it’s capacity to stay and work through difficult feelings.

I am feeling so nostalgic today.Time is moving so fast. Years that once felt endless now move with startling speed and s...
27/05/2026

I am feeling so nostalgic today.

Time is moving so fast.

Years that once felt endless now move with startling speed and suddenly… and it does happen suddenly … you realize that so many moments were temporary while you were inside them.
Suddenly you have this longing to go back and live those moments again - this time savoring them, slowing them down… those random moments…

We think there will be more time. More summers. More ordinary Tuesdays. And then suddenly, you understand that entire seasons of life have ended without announcing themselves. When did that happen!?

And I am realizing that this is why presence matters so much.

We cannot stop time. Childhood keeps moving. People grow. Families change shape. Parents age. Bodies change. Life keeps asking us to let go of one version of things and make room for another.

We aren’t meant to hold on tighter.
We are meant to *arrive* more fully.

So much of life is made of ordinary moments we do not recognize as extraordinary until they are gone.

And perhaps part of maturity is understanding that joy is not found only in the big milestones. It is found in allowing yourself to fully *inhabit the life that is already happening while it is happening.*

Not someday.
Not when things calm down.
Not when everyone is older.
Not when work is less demanding.

Now.

Because this version of life…this exact configuration of people, ages, conversations, routines, and needs…will never exist again in the same way.

Enjoy the moments.
Even the imperfect ones.
Especially the ordinary ones.

Today I want us to make the intention to engage with our eyes, ears, mind and heart.Bringing our full attention and ener...
27/05/2026

Today I want us to make the intention to engage with our eyes, ears, mind and heart.

Bringing our full attention and energy to those moments and locking them into our memory.⠀

(I would like to share a story. 12 years ago, I forgot to bring my phone to my daughter’s birthday party. I was upset that I wouldn’t be able to capture the beautiful birthday party on the lake with perfect weather and the Care Bears theme!

People told me that they would send me the pictures but I still felt quite disappointed that I wouldn’t be able to capture this day in the way I wanted.

Without my camera to aid me I paid close attention to every detail of that day so that I would not forget).

I memorized her face, the cake, the people, the emotions….

I took mental snapshots of everything.

It was the most beautiful day and I was so full of love.

Looking back, there is not a single birthday of any of my kids that I remember the way I remember that birthday.⠀

This Eid, I am going to make an intention to do the same. I will memorize, savor, immerse, and engage each moment with all of my senses this day.

Eid Mubarak to all the people who celebrate. I hope you have a beautiful day with your friends and family.⠀

Suggestion: Try it. Instead of taking pictures of your day, take mental snapshots. Memorize the moments and the feelings. Live it fully without having a screen in between you and that experience.

People turn acceptance into self-abandonment.They think accepting means:“I have to be okay with this.”“I shouldn’t feel ...
25/05/2026

People turn acceptance into self-abandonment.

They think accepting means:
“I have to be okay with this.”
“I shouldn’t feel this way anymore.”
“I just need to move on.”

So they override their own experience.

And when that happens, two things tend to follow:

1. The grief doesn’t actually move.
It gets pushed down, delayed, or disguised…
as numbness, irritation, chronic tension, or quiet disengagement from life.

2. They lose trust in themselves.
Because something inside them knows:
“This isn’t okay.”
But they’re telling themselves it should be.

“The cave you fear, holds the treasure you seek”
24/05/2026

“The cave you fear, holds the treasure you seek”

Loving someone for who they are and not what they can do for you. That’s not easy.Who are you without the roles I have p...
14/05/2026

Loving someone for who they are and not what they can do for you. That’s not easy.

Who are you without the roles I have put upon you - healer, savior, enemy, mirror, mother, child, projection?

That question is the threshold of real relationship.

Most relationships never cross this threshold because seeing someone truly requires the death of the person I needed you to be.

To truly see the other as other means I must let die:
- the fantasy that you exist to meet my needs
- the illusion that I know you entirely
- the unconscious belief that love should protect me from discomfort
- the control I have through defining you, fixing you, or merging with you

We spend our lives trying to stabilize our worlds-managing situations, anticipating problems, adjusting to others.We cal...
29/04/2026

We spend our lives trying to stabilize our worlds-
managing situations, anticipating problems, adjusting to others.

We call this “being prepared.”

But often, it pulls us away from ourselves.

Over time, we exile ourselves from our own center-
because our sense of stability becomes tied to things
that are meant to keep changing.

The “Ground of Being” isn’t a destination where the wind stops blowing. It is the realization that you are the mountain, not the weather passing over it.

The work is found in the “micro-moments” of the day.
In the three-second gap between a perceived slight and a defensive text.

It’s in the heavy silence of an unanswered question.

It’s in the urge to “fix” a situation that isn’t yours to carry.

When you don’t move toward an immediate solution,
you fall back into yourself.

At first, that can feel like losing control.

Like you might keep falling.

And sometimes it does feel that way.

But if you stay, something shifts.

You realize that there is a part of you-a quiet, observing steady-ness-that remains untouched by the drama of the surface.

You don’t find your ground by making the world sit still. You find it by realizing that even when the world moves, you don’t have to go with it.

Lean into the uncomfortable feeling of ‘not knowing’ today.

Let the tension sit there. Breathe.

Notice: You are still here.

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