19/08/2026
IT HAPPENED TO ME....
the first times after the separation of my parents, when I went for skiing holidays with my father as a child from 8 on. I couldn't leave him .... He often was skiing down hill without me and I was to little to find solutions on my own, when I felt or the terrain became too difficult to me, sometimes strangers helped me then. sometimes I struggleed aline and cried.
I often had been in panic by that .... My father wanted his joy by skiing freely and waited relaxed down at the station of the skilift without understanding, how I felt between nine and twelve years.
Later it happened with a partner in the Norwegian mountains. I left him, weeks later, in the situation it was not possible.
"[Stefanie Peiker, a hiking guide in the Austrian Alps] said she often comes across women who are alone on mountain paths because their partners are hiking ahead. So she wasn’t surprised when, during the past weeks, women on Reddit, Instagram and TikTok began sharing stories of being left behind by their partners while hiking, biking and climbing in nature, calling it 'Alpine divorce.'
Often, the women described risky or uncomfortable circumstances where their partners had more knowledge of the terrain or more experience with the sport. In some cases, the couple met again, but in others, the women remained alone or relied on strangers to descend the mountain safely...
Alpine divorce has dark undertones: Even if done without the intent to harm, leaving behind someone less experienced in a mountain range like the Alps, where temperatures often fall below zero, and the weather changes unexpectedly, can lead to severe consequences.
Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, a clinical psychologist in New York City, said that being on the receiving side of an Alpine divorce can be a wake-up call for people in dysfunctional romantic relationships.
'It’s almost like a Rorschach test,' Dr. Romanoff said. 'The issue isn’t the mountain, but the mind-set the person is bringing to the relationship and how they’re handling power and empathy and responsibility'...
'There’s the male ego, the pressure to be faster and stronger than others and to climb mountains not because of the beauty and the experience but to be able to tell someone some superlative that you reached,' Mr. Truegler said...
'It’s very common that you see a couple in the mountains, and it’s always like the guy pushing his wife or his girlfriend to go further when she is totally exhausted and wants to go back,' Mr. Eberle said...
Mr. Eberle said he believes that the behavior he witnessed and other similar instances are caused by toxic masculinity. “They want to score a new personal record or hike a new route,” Mr. Eberle said, “and in the worst cases, their partners die or are abandoned and traumatized for life.”...
And if a partner abandons you while you’re hiking together?
[Peiker] had one piece of advice: 'Never meet this person again.'"
To read the full piece in the New York Times, visit https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/12/style/alpine-divorce-relationships-hike.html?unlocked_article_code=1.bFA.mD2k.aDipWpnAZucz&smid=url-share
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