12/07/2026
Have you ever wondered why you can deeply want something… A healthier body. A more loving relationship. A different career. More confidence. More freedom. Yet find yourself not taking the action required to create it?
Most people assume they need more motivation, discipline or willpower. I know I certainly did.
But after supporting thousands of people over the past decade through our Inner Work coaching modality, we’ve found that often what holds us back isn’t a lack of desire.
It’s fear. Not the fear of heights or spiders.
It’s the fear of having a feeling.
At Awakened Lifestyles, we believe there are three core fears that all humans have.
1️⃣Powerlessness
The fear of feeling out of control (I relate to this one most 😩) For me, it can look like trying to control my external environment, becoming hyper-organised, cleaning, planning or needing things to feel “just right.”
2️⃣Abandonment
The fear of not being loved, accepted or belonging.
The thoughts like: “What if they leave me?”
“What if I’m too much?”
“What will they think?”
And in an attempt to avoid being abandoned by others, we often abandon ourselves. We say yes when we mean no. We hide parts of ourselves. We become who we think we need to be.
3️⃣Worthlessness
The fear that as we are, we are not enough.
The belief: “I need to have more, do more or be more, and then I’ll finally be worthy.” Of course there is no issue with wanting more but the issue is for most of us we keep moving the goal posts and we never “arrive”.
These fears themselves are not the problem. Fear is a healthy human emotion. The suffering comes when we spend our lives unconsciously trying to avoid feeling them and it holds us back from what we are truly meant to have, be and do in life.
Inner Work isn’t about removing our fears. It’s about gaining mastery over them.
So we can feel the fear, allow it to be there, and still choose what aligns with our values.
This is how we shift from a life led by fear, to a life led by love, self-respect and our values.
If you’re ready to explore how fear may be holding you back, enquire via the website (link in bio) or email [email protected]
Eve x