11/08/2026
💛 Feeling it first, deciding later
Something I have become very aware of lately is just how many of the children in my care are Emotional decision-makers in Human Design.
And oh boy… they can FEEL. 💕
Big excitement.
Big frustration.
Big disappointment.
Big “YES!”
And sometimes, five minutes later, a very big “NO!” 😅
But there is nothing wrong with those emotions.
My role isn't to stop the feeling, distract them from it or convince them that they shouldn't feel that way.
My role is to help them recognise it, experience it and learn what to do with it.
Because every child expresses their emotional wave differently.
One might yell.
One might cry.
One might become incredibly excited and impulsive.
Another might withdraw.
So instead of focusing only on the behaviour, I can become curious about what is happening underneath it.
"You're really excited about this right now."
"That disappointment feels huge."
"You really want to decide this NOW."
And then comes something I think is such an important skill to learn:
You don't have to make a decision while the feeling is at its biggest.
In Human Design, Emotional Authority is about allowing time for the emotional wave to move before reaching clarity.
With young children, I translate that into something much simpler:
💛 Feel it.
💛 We don't have to solve everything right now.
💛 Give yourself some time.
💛 Come back to it later.
💛 Sometimes, sleep on it.
Because when you feel something incredibly strongly, chances are you may feel very differently once that wave has moved.
And that doesn't make either feeling wrong.
I don't expect a three-year-old to understand their emotional authority 😂
But I can create an environment where they slowly learn:
My feelings are safe here.
I am allowed to feel them.
I don't have to act on every feeling immediately.
And the adults around me will help me while I learn what my emotions feel like in MY body.
And then there is my side of this work too.
Some days this is much easier than others.
My Emotional/Solar Plexus Centre is open. In Human Design terms, I can take in the emotions around me and experience them more intensely on top of it
Put several little emotional beings together in one space and, yep… some days that's A LOT. 😅
There are days when I can feel myself becoming overwhelmed. I notice I'm shorter. Snappier. Less patient.
And that's where my own awareness becomes just as important as theirs.
What am I actually feeling?
Is this mine?
What have I picked up from the room?
And where am I sitting within myself right now?
Sometimes I need to take a breath.
Ground myself.
Give myself a moment before stepping into their big emotion.
Because I can't guide a child through their emotional wave very well when I have become swept up in it too.
And like every other human being, some days I fail spectacularly 😂
Some days I absolutely nail it. 👑
But mostly, there is a healthy balance somewhere in between.
And maybe that's part of what I am modelling too.
Emotional regulation isn't about being calm and perfectly regulated all the time.
It's noticing.
Recognising.
Coming back to ourselves.
Repairing when we get it wrong.
And trying again. 💕
That, to me, is the beautiful part of bringing Human Design into my work.
I'm not trying to put children into boxes or teach them Human Design terminology.
I'm learning to understand the child in front of me AND myself a little more deeply, so I can keep asking:
What does THIS child need from me right now — and what do I need within myself so I can actually give it? 💕
