PB Counselling - Mental Health Specialist

01/12/2021

The human spirit is free!
No amount of 'stuff' or 'promises' make it freer!
Surrender to spirit!

26/11/2021

22/11/2021

🤷 Time + good plan + compassionate communicating = win outcomes 👏

Too much management with
No leader = chaos 😵

16/11/2021

In a lawsuit the first to speak seems right
Until someone comes forward and cross examines
Proverbs 18:17

11/11/2021

Imagine saying to someone who is in recovery from a heart attack 'Get up each day and do a marathon'
Yet we feel justified ...

03/11/2021

A piece from A Course in Miracles

'The strain of constant judgement is virtually intolerable. It is

curious that an ability so debilitating would be so deeply cherished"

There's a lot of judging going on at the moment, we are very

willing in disabling ourselves, our children, loved ones,

communities, by thinking we have permission to

judge each other with furrowed brows and serious faces.

It's only takes a moment to judge, to cause harm , to damage

for a lifetime.

So if we're really serious about saving ourselves and the planet

When you catch yourself judging , give yourself a smack and

remind yourself of the harm you are causing.

Focus on the space in between the thought and the action,

And with a great big smile on your face release the energy in

kindness instead.

May peace and joy be in you always ❤ Slainte

15/10/2021

16/08/2021

Listening to those qualified to speak.

09/08/2021

07/08/2021

07/02/2021

Finding You in You

Chapter 1 Mother’s first nose bleed

So you’re feeling wobbly, unbalanced, lost. You keep your eyes tightly shut. Another day started. You state the affirmations you have been saying for years, I’m happy and grateful for the bed I sleep in, the coffee I drink. …….but it doesn’t feel like it. The other thoughts intrude, could you die peacefully and no one would notice? Pushing the blanket off feels a weight, and putting your feet on the floor is like stepping onto a hard rock with sharp edges. Even the shower, when you get to it, is not soothing, and the phone you’re not going near that. Maybe a quick peep. Oh no, look at those bi***es having a wonderful time. So you throw the new expensive phone across the room hitting your precious cat on the nose. Now you are convinced you are a violent, uncaring person, poor kitty!
And then comes the tsunami of negative thoughts, the things you should do, or must do, the mistakes, the f**k ups, the broken relationships, the self-critic, looping nicely and tightly around your self-worth and self-esteem piercing you with icicles of self-doubt. You agree it is not going to be a good day. Back under the blanket. Eyes shut tight.
The pile of self-help books neatly stacked covers the red wall. Why have you a red wall? Irritability screams inside you, you were told the answers are in the book, that’s not true. You must move them to the garage out of sight. You wonder if you can ever get to a place of calmness, fearlessness, happiness any time soon. How confusing and horrible the world gets.
You wonder if anyone can be on top of the world ever. You swallowed the saying ‘you’ve made your bed you’ve got to lie in it’ a long time ago. You believe you’ll not have anything better than you already have, there is no evidence it can or will happen for you. But it does happen for others, you’ve seen evidence on social media of those people exactly unlike you, achieving fame and fortune. Their relationships, work, finances all in sync, flowing beautifully. Even worse they never have a bad day. How you wish you could have even a small bit, winning the lottery would be a good start. That’s enough to send you back under the blanket for the rest of the day, week, year.
But hold on, what if there is a way out? That would be nice, wouldn't it? Life is very busy though, have you got the time?
You met that friend the other day, you know the one, who has it together. You listened as she went on and on about herself. The holidays, the perfect marriages, the relationships , money, popularity. You waited for a pause, even if it was to complain, but it never came. You ate your food in lumps and greedily, determinately drank the drink. You were taken aback; the slurping noise you made with the straw in the ice, did not interrupt the babble coming from the mouth. You graciously repressed the self doubt and it burned your eyes and choked your breath. Then the indigestion came. The self-talk screamed louder than ever, ‘you are useless,’ you don’t do anything right, you are hopeless’. You run fast and as far away as possible but that voice travels with you. Your poor friend, she didn’t deserve that, you didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. You try hard to please others, to be nice, to make them like you.
Weren’t you told as a child it’s important that others like you? Remember that time you refused to share your favourite toy. That child you had to endure, wanted your favourite toy as well and your parents agreed. They had their serious, disapproving faces on and you did as they said, even when s/he broke it right in front of your eyes. ‘You should share’ they said. ‘People like you when you are nice’. And when you shouted ‘No’ your father’s face turned purple with burst capillaries and your mother had her first nose bleed. Your voice muted forgot to waken.

Watch out for Chapter 2 coming soon.