30/05/2026
Food for thought... what is restorative rest for you?
My entire perspective on chronic illness changed the day my coach pointed out that lying in bed all day during a flare-up is not necessarily productive—or restful.
At the time, I was wrestling with a tremendous amount of guilt over my lack of productivity. I was frustrated that entire days seemed to disappear while I lay in bed.
“I know rest is important,” I vented. “It’s not optional. Our bodies need it, and it’s impossible to function well when we’re exhausted. But I stay in bed all day. All I do is rest!”
My coach smiled and asked, “But is staying curled up in a fetal position in pain truly restful?”
Oh. 😮
Talk about a lightbulb moment.
Because she was right.
Being confined to bed during a flare may be necessary, but that doesn’t automatically make it restorative. Pain is exhausting. Anxiety is exhausting. Spending hours waiting for symptoms to ease is exhausting. Sometimes our bodies are physically still while our minds and nervous systems are working overtime.
That realization changed the way I think about rest.
If you’re living with chronic illness and feeling guilty about your lack of productivity while also wondering why you still feel so depleted despite “resting” all day, it may be worth asking yourself this question:
Is being stuck in bed with a flare truly restful?
Your bed may absolutely be where your body needs to be. Caring for your physical health matters. But true rest is more than the absence of activity. It’s anything that gives your mind, emotions, and nervous system a chance to exhale.
For me, that might look like listening to an audiobook, sitting outside in the sunshine or taking a walk, knitting, having a meaningful conversation with a friend, enjoying a favorite show(without multitasking!!), taking a long bath with calming music, or simply doing something that brings a small spark of joy into an otherwise difficult day. True rest for me requires focusing on only one thing at a time and limiting as much stimuli as possible. 
When chronic illness forces us to slow down physically, it’s equally important that we intentionally build moments of genuine restoration into our lives—not just for our bodies, but for our minds and hearts as well.
~ Emily Elizabeth Anderson