18/06/2026
One of the most confronting things about losing someone to spirit the first time is we realise that death is going to happen.
No one is safe from it, no age limit, no way to know when and in a way this can create a fear of death.
The first loss is when we finally understand that life will not last forever and ever.
I admit for many years after my brother and daughter passed not only was I grieving but I was fearing the unknown. Gripped by the ominous question of 'who is next' and 'what if its me?'
After many more passings and many more tears I have decided that there is no sense fearing something that I have no choice over.
I can look after my health and I can live life to the fullest, those are the only two choices I have in life.
It is easy in the darkness of grief to forget we have these choices but we do.
One day it will be you walking up the corridor of light, home to the afterlife leaving behind many who love you and for some you will be their first hard hit of grief.
So while you can choose , choose to be an example of grasping this life on earth with both hands.
Show those who love you it’s ok to love , to grieve and to move forward again.
Not one person in the afterlife wishes you would simply stop trying to find joy 🧡