Renee Yam - Counsellor & Sexologist

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Renee Yam - Counsellor & Sexologist

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Christian Sexologist
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Author Registered Counsellor & Sexual Health Educator.

Has your past relational or sexual experiences left you emotionally hurting and in pain? Do you find it difficult navigating expectations, boundaries or communication in your relationships? Do you have concerns about intimacy or are unsatisfied in your sexual relationship? Is viewing pornography affecting your lifestyle, identity or relationships? Counselling provides a place for you to explore your values, hopes and dreams and process different areas of your life or experiences that may be impacting you from living a satisfied and healthy life. It is common for individuals and couples to have challenges and concerns around relationships, intimacy and sexuality. Every aspect of a person’s life is reflected in their sexuality: the past, present, beliefs, relationships, childhood experiences, self-esteem and identity, how we were taught about sex and many other things. Talking to a professional counsellor in a safe and confidential environment can be a way to explore and address any personal, relationship and sexual issues that may be impacting you from enjoying healthy and satisfying relationships. Renee provides counselling in the following areas:
• Self-esteem, confidence & identity
• Communication skills
• Coping with emotions
• Assertiveness & boundaries setting
• Relationship issues
• Lack of sexual enjoyment & intimacy
• Performance anxiety
• Female and male sexual dysfunctions
• Sexual abuse and its impacts on sexuality
• Pornography

19/10/2026

For a lot of women, desire doesn’t just appear out of nowhere.

And putting more pressure on yourself to “get in the mood” usually doesn’t help.

Sometimes desire comes after you’ve had time to slow down, feel connected, experience affection, switch off the mental load + actually begin enjoying what’s happening.

So instead of asking:

“What’s wrong with me? Why don’t I want s..x more?”

Try getting curious:

“What helps my desire come alive… and what puts the brakes on it?”

You don’t need more pressure. You need to understand your desire. 🤍

🫶🏻Share this with a woman who needs this reminder.

👇🏻Want help talking to your husband about intimacy, comment TALK and I’ll send you my free guide.

17/10/2026

The thing missing from your intimacy might have nothing to do with s..x.

When Christian married couples feel disconnected, it’s easy to focus on what’s not happening in the bedroom.

But s..xual intimacy doesn’t exist in isolation.

Try this one thing:
Ask each other tonight:

“Where have you felt most connected to me lately, and where have you been missing me?”

Then listen. Don’t fix, defend or explain. Just get curious.

Sometimes rebuilding connection starts with feeling seen, heard and close again.

🤔Want to know which areas of intimacy are thriving in your marriage, and which might need a little more attention?

👇🏻Comment QUIZ and I’ll send you my free Intimacy Check-Up Quiz. 🤍

❤️‍🔥Send this to your spouse and ask each other the question tonight.

17/10/2026

I’m curious what comes to mind when you read this quote? ✨

I see it that the key is focusing on how two people love each other in a healthy Christ-like others-focused way because what you are building together is a love and bond that is securely attached.

15/10/2026

Loving Jesus is important. But a godly relationship is also about how we choose to love each other.

Colossians 3 tells us to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness + above all, love.

These aren’t just qualities we look for in another person. They’re qualities we’re called to bring into our relationships too.

A godly relationship should encourage us to bring out the best in each other, grow in Christlike love + keep pursuing Jesus together. 🤍

🫶🏻Share this with someone who wants to build a relationship that looks like this.🌱

👇🏻comment NEWSLETTER if you want more conversations about faith, s..x, dating + relationships straight to your inbox.

13/10/2026

S..xual desire isn’t something, as a Christian, you need to fear, hide or feel ashamed of.

Attraction is part of being human. The question isn’t “How do I stop feeling desire?” but “How do I navigate desire in a way that aligns with my faith + values?”

That’s where wisdom, boundaries and self-awareness matter. 🤍

Share this in the group chat, because we need more conversations that remind us desire isn’t something to be ashamed of. 🫶🏻

Dating as a Christian and want some practical guidance?
👇🏻Comment DATING and I’ll send you my free Christian Dating Guide.

Let’s normalise these convos.

12/10/2026

Desire isn’t the problem, learning how to navigate it with wisdom, intention + your values is. 🤍

Comment DATING and I’ll send you my free Christian Dating Guide.

12/10/2026

They’re already asking the questions.

About dating. S..x. Desire. Boundaries. Shame. Marriage.

The question is whether they feel safe enough to ask them in church.

This weekend I spoke in Melbourne Hillsong Melbourne GreaterWest about relationships, and I loved their hunger to build healthy God-honouring relationships.

Let’s be real:

Silence doesn’t stop people having questions.
It just means they’ll look somewhere else for answers.

I believe the Church can talk about s..x + relationships with biblical conviction AND compassion, without awkwardness or shame.🌱

If you want honest, practical Christian conversations about s..x, dating, relationships + intimacy, follow along 🤍

What’s one topic you wish the Church talked about more?👇🏻

Want me to speak at your church or event? Send me a DM, I’d love to hear what you’re planning. 🤍

09/10/2026

Dear God, may my life - my mind, my body, my choices, my behaviours, be a living sacrifice for you. Transform me by renewing my mind and make me a doer of the Word.

I want to serve Christ, not this culture.

Amen.

Take time today to PRAY over your life!

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

“Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”
‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭21‬-‭22‬ ‭NIV‬‬

09/10/2026

6 YEARS 🥹📖

This month marks six years since S..x Awakened was released… and I still can’t quite believe I wrote a book in the middle of COVID while working, counselling, lecturing AND homeschooling three kids. 😂

But I knew there was a gap.

So many Christian couples were told:

“Wait until you’re married.”

But not much about what happens after I do.

How do you build healthy s..xual intimacy?
How do you talk about s..x?
What if desire doesn’t work like you expected?

I wanted couples to have these conversations before they were struggling.

That’s why I wrote S..x Awakened, to give engaged and newlywed couples practical, positive, biblical education about s..x and intimacy.

Six years later, I still believe this:

We don’t only need to teach couples to wait for marriage.
We need to teach them how to build healthy intimacy within it. ❤️

Have you read S..x Awakened? Tell me below 👇

08/10/2026

“How often should we be having s..x?” isn’t the best measure of a healthy s..x life.

Try asking:

“Are we BOTH enjoying the s..x we’re having?”

Because more s..x doesn’t automatically mean better s..x.

Mutual enjoyment, safety, pleasure, communication and connection matter too.

Follow Renee Yam Christian Sexologist for practical, shame-free conversations about s..x + intimacy from a Christian perspective. 🤍

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http://www.reneeyam.com/

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