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05/02/2022

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20/05/2021

TANTRUMS
If authority is a solution to frustration – a way of managing it, a way of bearing it, a way of stopping it turning into murder or su***de or torture – what kinds of authority are most suited to the frustrations of childhood? Or to put it less abstractly, what is the best thing to do when a child has a tantrum – the primal scene of frustration, and not only for children? Once again, broadly speaking, the child can be punished, penalised, made to sit on the naughty step. Or the parent can stay with the child with a view to containing him: stopping him harming himself, stopping him doing too much damage, but not trying to stop him having the tantrum – which of course involves a belief that the tantrum will end.

The child has the tantrum often over some apparently trivial thing, though the thing represents a catalogue of pent-up frustrations. It is the magical act of a desperate person: if I get enraged enough I will get what I want, or I will destroy myself and the world in which I have to suffer such torments. The child needs to know that there is someone stronger than his rage who can hold him and his world together: he needs to have that experience. Afraid of being too powerful, of being able to destroy his world, the child needs the adult above all to show him that there are brakes on his fantasy life, in which all violence is murder and all appetite voracious. The parent who punishes the child for his tantrum – punishment being itself a kind of tantrum, a despair about the rules rather than their enforcement – says to the child: my tantrum is more powerful than yours, but tantrums are all we have got. The child is made to suffer for his suffering, as if to say: suffering inspires suffering, rage and frustration create nothing but rage and frustration. The child who is punished for his frustration learns that frustration is contagious, and has to be evacuated as rage. Frustration is not a raw material to be transformed but a foreign body to be expelled. The punitive parent is giving the child what we have learned to call a double message: he is being told by someone who is enraged by their frustration that he should not be enraged by his frustration.

Excerpt from" The Magical Act of a Desperate Person" by Adam Phillips.

14/09/2020

Psychotherapy holds out the promise of being able to help us with many of the problems that ruin our lives: anxiety, self-hatred, shame and confusion... But ...

17/08/2020

Frank Yeomans describes the spectrum of narcissism, from healthy all the way to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). He mentions the current epidemic of ...

30/05/2020

Wednesday 27th May, West Australian, Page 3. So good to see this sort of reporting out there. Many believe that a baby's first sounds are his/her way of communicating with another and if copied the baby will feel seen, that he/she matters enough for another to try and understand by attempting to communicate back to baby in the baby's own language. If an adult were speaking and we made no attempt to listen or respond that would probably stop communication. Many researcher's believe the baby may feel he/she actually begins to exist as a unique and separate being because an important other takes time to listen, understand and emulate what is being spoken. No wonder the baby smiles.

10/12/2018

Sound knowledge of splitting. It takes time for clients to be able to see when they are splitting and usually this is worked through in therapy. For the client to accept that he/she is the one who has a skewed view of the world/reality can be alarming. Thoughts of being different, diagnosed with a disorder or emotionally impaired are not easy for anyone to accept so it takes time, usually with an empathic and listening therapist. One needs to develop a capacity for tolerating pain without blame or anger or defensive attacking. Another person cannot answer her/his needs and is not responsible for answering the needs of another.

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09/12/2018

"Back From the Edge" offers guidance on treating Borderline Personality Disorder. The video was created by the Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Cente...

07/12/2018

One more type - the cupboard narcissist, who lives on reflected glory of another.
e.g. a spouse is very successful and the partner supports, applauds and promotes
their success in order to feel more acceptable themselves.

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07/12/2018

As you engage with a narcissist, you quickly realize that person has an agenda for you. What's worse, the agenda is built upon false assumptions about who yo...

07/12/2018

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06/12/2018

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