Raven Mercer

11/10/2022

29/09/2022

I want to share something with you all.

A realisation so painful that I didn't want to accept it.

These last few days, I have been DEEP in emotional release.

The weeks prior I had burnt myself out..again..for the millionth time.

I had been playing out my own trauma loop of "I have to do this ALL on my own without support."

" I have to take care of everything because I can not rely on others to help or really have my back."

This was my trauma loop but let me be clear..this is NOT a pity party.

This loop was my subconscious survival instincts playing out.

As such I didn't realise how ATTACHED I had become to the pain of this concept.

My partner n I had an argument about it..again.

I was blaming. He said to me "You need to let go of your control of things and TRUST me with things too."

I lost my self to the pain of that comment, but he was right.

I didn't trust him to do things, I had just become caught up in my trauma response of "Doing".

Granted he played his role too, he hadn't seen or felt into where I needed support so he could nudge me open.

I went to a dark place inside myself.

I was wondering why this was emerging, why now?

I had just done some deep healing around worthiness to receive.

Oh..right..I got it, I was letting go of my old narrative and everything associated with it was playing out to heal.

I thought I had reached the end of my relationship, that was the old pattern. .I grow and they drop away.

Not this time, no this time it was my trauma voice that was wrong.

Reality was different but I had to fully surrender to the concept of loss before I could let go long enough to allow my dreams to be recieved.

Sometimes it's the letting go of the trauma patterns and the preconceived ideas around one's experience that allows everything you want, deserve and need to manifest.

I didn't realise that I was holding onto the ideas that had kept me safe at one point so tightly that they were now forming the cage I so desperately wanted to be free from.

We all can build cages of our own device, driven by the need for safety.

My question is "when does our safety become our cage and is not longer our Sanctuary?"

Each of us has had some form of this..I am sending love to that part of you.

I see you, feel you and deeply know you.

There is hope, there is freedom.

There is also help available, don't be afraid to reach out ❤️

25/09/2022

What is a love message?

You will hear me talk about a love message as part of the healing work I offer.

What exactly IS a love message in the context of healing?

In the context of the healing I offer, a love message is the words, sentences or phrases we seek to FULLY RELEASE AND INTERGRATE the story that forms the core of a trauma pattern.

In finding the love message, we are able to hit the metaphorical "reset " button on our trauma responses to that particular trauma.

For example, When you find the love message to release and integrate your unworthiness trauma, you then can become mentally and emotionally free to FEEL and RESPOND differently in situations that may have triggered you previously.

~Raven

22/09/2022

As a deeply feeling woman who has experienced emotional abuse from an ex partner, I know how it feels to have pain in my heart.

I know how it feels to ache and wish the pain away.

To scream "WHY!!" and desperately seek for answers.

Then when the answers came it surprised me.

There were so many patterns that showed me where I hadn't loved myself.

I did not understand why self love was so import, I wanted someone OUTSIDE of me to love me.

Then I learned a secret, that everything I wanted in the outside world had to be ATTRACTED to me by my inner thoughts.

The #1 key to everything we desire is to uncover the thoughts and beleifs that are BLOCKING what ever it is that we desire.

We do this through finding what is called a "love message " from our experiences.

That is what I do, I help you find the "love message" to release blockages.

I empower you with emotional tools and support so you can then ATTRACT what your heart wants most.

Pm me "Transform" for information about my Transform your relationships in 7 weeks course.