Intimacy & Relationships with Nic

27/08/2026

Keeping the spark alive after your wedding day is over - from wedding photographer turned sexologist Nicola Bodle

Post-wedding blues are real. A somatic sexologist and former wedding photographer shares five ways to keep intimacy and connection alive once the planning stops

27/08/2026

If you’re planning your wedding or currently enjoying that post-wedding bliss, you may find yourself wondering.. what’s next?

I spoke with Polka Dot Weddings about 5 ways that couples can maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship over time, no matter how many years or decades they are together.

Comment SPARK to read the full article!

Photos by me Fox & Kin • Nicola Bodle of the delightful Belinda and David who clearly need no help in this department!

Words by me Intimacy & Relationships with Nicola Bodle - your intimacy and relationship expert and enthusiast!

24/08/2026

I once had a partner who literally had 20 nieces and nephews, and every time we got together with the whole family, I would reach a point in the day where I would have to lock myself in the bedroom and hide under the covers in the dark for an hour before I could return to the group.

I had no idea I was AuDHD.
I thought I hated kids.
I didn’t know I was overstimulated.
But my body did.

And even though I didn’t have the language or understanding of what was going on, I listened to my body when it said “go to a dark, quiet place alone until you feel better.”

For some people, this may seem like common sense. But for a lot of neurodivergent people, we don’t understand the rising discomfort and panic. Or we don’t recognise the signals until it’s too late and we’re on the verge of a meltdown or shutdown.

Everyone has a sensory budget that is depleted throughout the day by various input. Your sensory budget level is going to have a direct effect on your desire for and experience of intimacy.

Want to know more?

Comment BUDGET for the full run down and exercises to understand your sensory budget!

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22/08/2026

Everyone has a sensory budget that is depleted throughout the day by various input. Your sensory budget level is going to have a direct impact on your desire for and experience of intimacy.

Want to know more?

https://intimacywithnic.com/ramblings/sensory-budget-a-neuro-affirming-approach-to-intimacy-and-overwhelm

19/08/2026

Ever found your body responding (or not responding) how you want it to? When it comes to intimacy, it’s so common and totally normal!

Sometimes our mind will be 100% on and our body will be offline. ⛓️‍💥

Other times our body is acting like it’s raring to go and we’re not even aware of it.

That’s ar0usal non-concordance and it’s even more common for people with ADHD.

If you notice your body isn’t producing as much lubrication as you’d like, try these WAP melts from Bawdee Wellness

🌿 They contain all natural plant extracts, hyaluronic acid and probiotics to enhance natural lubrication.

After dissolving they last for about 12 hours and can be safely used with latex and silicone. So you don’t need to keep reapplying l**e during longer sessions 😏

Try them for yourself and use code 10NIC for 10% off your order from Bawdee Wellness

Happy slip and sliding! 💦

15/08/2026

Feeling disconnected from your body?
Wondering why you don’t want to rip your partner’s clothes off at the end of the day?

Too overwhelmed to even consider pleasure a priority?
Let’s talk about it.

Join me at Alternatives Bookshop in Bellingen on Sunday 23rd August at 5pm for a night of Reclaiming Pleasure. All women and AFAB welcome.

There is no pressure to share anything personal. You can choose to sit back and observe, or ask as many questions as you’d like.

Together we’ll build skills in:
* Pleasure anatomy and nervous system regulation
* Getting out of your head during intimacy
* How to figure out what you like and how to ask for it
* How to create the right context for you to feel desire

This is an intentionally intimate space, and only a few places remain. Make one yours.

https://events.humanitix.com/reclaiming-pleasure-for-women-bellingen

12/08/2026

Have you ever wanted intimacy… but absolutely NOT wanted to be touched?
For a lot of neurodivergent people, the problem isn’t a lack of desire.
It’s that intimacy can come with A LOT of sensory input.

- Skin-on-skin contact.
- Body heat.
- Sweat.
- Hair brushing against your face.
- The smell of someone’s skin.
- The sound of breathing.
- Bright lights.
- Background noise.
- Sheets touching your legs.

And if you’re already at capacity, you can’t really handle much more.

And then add in the emotional and cognitive load of seggs on top of all that…
Your nervous system might eventually go: NOPE. TOO MUCH.

If you’re not aware of what sensory things overwhelm you, then it’s really hard to create the right environment for you to enjoy intimacy, and you may end up avoiding it altogether.

Understanding your sensory preferences can help you communicate what feels good, what doesn’t, and what helps your body stay regulated enough to actually enjoy being intimate.

So I’m curious: what sensory experience can completely change your desire for intimacy?

Tell me in the comments, or save this for the next time your nervous system says “absolutely fu***ng not” when your brain was saying “maybe…”

I’ll be releasing a whole bunch of FREE resources on intimacy and neurodivergence soon, so stick around if you want to be the first to hear about it!

Follow Intimacy & Relationships with Nicola Bodle for grounded, neurodivergent-affirming conversations about intimacy, relationships, pleasure and the nervous system.

16/04/2026

A conversation for men on intimacy and communication at .bookshop

You’ll learn skills in:
* Stepping out of performance mode
* Connecting with and being present in your body
* Understanding and communicating your needs and desires
* Listening to your partner and truly giving

This is an intentionally intimate space, so places are limited.