Dani O'Brien Holistic Counsellor & Wellness Coach

12/08/2026

Kindness and people pleasing can look very similar from the outside, but they come from very different places.

✅️ Kindness comes from having something to give.

❌️ People pleasing comes from feeling like we have to give.

✅️ When we are being kind, we can genuinely consider another person's needs while staying connected to our own. We give because we have the capacity or because it feels aligned with who we are.

❌️ People pleasing develops when we learn very early on (usually in childhood) that keeping others happy, avoiding conflict, being needed or putting ourselves aside for others to be comfortable or well, is how we earn love or respect. We feel liked and accepted, and this fleeting feeling can become more important than our own energy, feelings, needs or wants.

✅️ Here's what to ask yourself...

❓️Do I want to do this? Do I have the capacity to do this?

Or my personal favourite...

❓️Am I doing this because I genuinely want to or because im afraid what might happen if I dont?

Go gently
Dani ✨️

02/08/2026

If you've been waiting for your partner to change before seeking support, perhaps this is a little reminder that you dont have to wait.

The work you do on yourself has the power to change every relationship in your life.

If you're ready to understand your patterns, build emotional resilience, create healthier, more fulfilling connections, start looking at the relationship you have with yourself.

This is at the heart of what I love to do, helping people understand themselves more fully so they know exactly what kind of relationship they want and deserve.

Go gently and be well
Dani ✨️

26/07/2026

30/04/2026

The people around you will either encourage you or shrink you.

The ones who truly matter will stand beside you as you grow, cheering from the side line.

And that kind of support changes everything.

Go gently
Dani ✨️

29/04/2026

Over time "being nice" or people pleasing can lead to ....
Resentment
Burnout
Loss of identity
Feeling unseen in relationships

Healing from this isnt about becoming less kind its about...
Setting boundaries
Being ok disappointing others
Honouring your needs

You be caring and self Honouring at the same time.

Go gently
Dani ✨️

11/04/2026

Private sound healing sessions availability this week and next week.
Be quick, they will hook out

Monday 13th @ 1.30
Friday 17th @ 1.15
Monday 20th @ 11.15
Thursday 23rd @ 3.15
Friday 24th @ 9.30

DM here to book or head to website to book and more appointment times.

www.soulholisticcounselling.com.au