17/08/2026
THE DOOR'S BEEN SHUT FOR TOO LONG
"Who bought the flowers?" a client asked me.
I did. I bought them "just because".
I was flossing after dinner (the dance, not my teeth), when my daughter asked: "Mummy, why are you dancing?"
I said, "Just because".
It's the same reason I look for the moon when I take the bins out, just because.
The relentlessness of life, bills, and chores can leave us stuck in a grind.
We spend so much precious energy on maintaining our homes, our careers, our relationships, our bodies, our finances that we can get stuck in maintenance mode, forever fixing and optimising.
But life isn't a never-ending project to be managed.
It's meant to be experienced.
That's why I smile when I see the dandelion growing through the cracks in the concrete.
Or the bougainvillea that colours the whole street.
One minute you're 22 and can take on the world. Then the next minute you know it's going to rain soon because your knee hurts.
I had a client tell me she looked in the mirror and said: "Who is this old person looking back at me?" I was just thinking the same thing that morning.
It wasn't that long ago that I got my first pair of reading glasses. Now I have a pair in each room.
We're getting a puppy soon. It will be chaos, and the house will be full of fur again. But I'm already feeling the anticipatory joy of the wagging tail and the unbridled enthusiasm for life.
Enthusiasm is contagious, and I'm hoping to catch it.
Joy doesn't wait until things are perfect.
Sometimes it takes us by surprise, taps us on the shoulder and says "here I am".
But more often than not, especially when we've experienced long stretches of joylessness, we need to open the door for joy to find us.
And the key to opening that door, that may have been shut for some time, is to take our attention away from ourselves for a moment and notice the world around us.
Joy is in the mess, in the chaos, in the mundane.
It's always there; we just forgot how to look because we've been scrolling for so long we no longer know how to be in awe of life.
Sometimes I'm teaching a yoga class, and everyone is moving and breathing as one.
It feels more than a shared moment in time; it feels like we're holding hands and going through this crazy life together.
We move and breathe together for an hour, then go about our day.
We often think about the big, defining moments of our lives, but in reality, it's a bunch of small moments strung together that form the fabric of our existence.
And we come together for an hour or two a week to share that existence, to weave that fabric and to create a positive ripple in our little pocket of the world.
The reason I dance after dinner, smile at strangers, or buy pretty flowers is because every time I look in the mirror, mortality slaps me in the face and reminds me of the times when there was no joy.
It wasn't that long ago I was in a deep pit of despair, and now I'm so grateful I'm not there anymore.
If this has made you think about joy, or how to open the door to it, then yoga might be on your list.
Most of our clients start yoga with us to get more flexible.
But they keep coming back (many of them for over a decade) because yoga makes them feel so much better.
In one week, a study of over 300 yoga practitioners* recorded a 13% increase in positive affect and a 47% decrease in negative affect (negative affect is a psychological term for a range of emotions, including anxiety, stress, irritability, tension, and fear).
Yoga is proven to help with stress, anxiety and depression. That's why the Commonwealth Government has reinstated private health insurance rebates for yoga - it works!
And if you're looking for a down-to-earth studio without the mirrors, selfies and fancy clothes, come find us.
We can help you get your joy back.
Image credit: Pure Dog and Cat Photography
*Reference - Narasimhan L, Nagarathna R, Nagendra H. Effect of integrated yogic practices on positive and negative emotions in healthy adults. Int J Yoga. 2011 Jan;4(1):13-9.