Evolve Mental Health

Evolve Mental Health Perinatal & Couples Counsellor | Supervisor
Support for Mothers, Couples and Professionals

Welcome to a part of my day - the inbetweens of client work, emails and business operations. Today focused on: • droppin...
03/06/2026

Welcome to a part of my day - the inbetweens of client work, emails and business operations.

Today focused on:
• dropping perfectionism- a bigger battle than just reframing core beliefs
• actually contributing to the nervous system not band - aiding fatigue
• cognitive respite - the brain is busy, she deserves time off too.

Let me know if you resonate with any of these small wins in the comments 👇👇

Also where are my acotar girlies at!💕🙋‍♀️

Kindly,
Ashleigh

Wellness hacks are great for nervous systems with good baselines. When your nervous system is operating from chronic str...
25/05/2026

Wellness hacks are great for nervous systems with good baselines.

When your nervous system is operating from chronic stress and depletion wellness hacks will only go so far.

I'm not saying not to do them, but I am saying there is more to it.

Evening out the emotional, cognitive and physical labour between partners creates space to build better baselines. To actually partake in wellness behaviours regularly and for these to be effective.

My LIGHTEN THE LOAD workshop is designed exactly for this.

This is a space for Mothers to learn how to let go of what is in your bucket, keeping you stuck.

Comment LOAD to register.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

If you align with any or all of these, it might indicate a need for some extra support. Couples come to birth debriefs f...
24/05/2026

If you align with any or all of these, it might indicate a need for some extra support.

Couples come to birth debriefs for a myriad of reasons and these are the most common I see.

➡️ One of you becomes the gatekeeper - this isn't taking on the mental load this is taking on the control of each and every outcome. Because that is a nervous system seeking safety and often misconstrued by the other partner as controlling. Leading to "I am not good enough".

➡️ Intimate touch ceases. Touch is no longer safe and this is confusing for partners when they watch you love your baby but shudder at their advances.

➡️ Forever feeling misunderstood by your partner. You were both there, but you both had entirely different experiences.

In Couples Debriefs we explore a mutual understanding of what has happened and what needs to occur next to bring connection and safety back between you.

If this resonates it may be time for that extra support.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

📣 CALLING ALL • birth workers • midwives • doulas • photographers • Lactation consultants • physios • nurses • group fac...
21/05/2026

📣 CALLING ALL

• birth workers
• midwives
• doulas
• photographers
• Lactation consultants
• physios
• nurses
• group facilitators
• body workers

This PD training is for you!

If you work with women in the perinatal period you owe it to yourself and your clients to work within a trauma informed lens.

Trauma should always be assumed and it should never be on the client to disclose trauma for you to take a trauma informed lens.

Working in trauma does not make you trauma informed.
When you know better you do better.

Comment TIP to register now.

Spaces limited!

Kindly,
Ashleigh

To be honest...I probably already said it. I'm not afraid to go there and tell you what needs to happen in your relation...
21/05/2026

To be honest...I probably already said it.
I'm not afraid to go there and tell you what needs to happen in your relationship for this process to work.

You have to let go of the full responsibility as emotional caretaker, and learning how to do that takes time, safety, trust and the right support 🙋‍♀️.

My LIGHTEN THE LOAD workshops look at exactly this - without the pressure of getting your partner to attend.

We look at your side and what is going on for you to help loosen the grip a little and create a little ease.

Two locations: hub.warnersbay June 10th village.collective__ July 14th
Limited spots available

Comment LOAD to register.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

20/05/2026

We know the therapeutic relationship counts for 70% of client outcomes and this doesn't change for couples work either.

Most couples feels like "they" gained couples Counselling, but maybe it just isn't a good clinical fit for one or both of you at the time.

This goes for my work too.

I have had conversations with clients at the start or even a couple of sessions deep, reflecting on clinical fit to ensure they are in the right space for them and their journey.

We can't be everyone's cup of tea, all of the time.

We are human after all.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

You don't have to be in crisis mode to seek support. Every Mother and family deserves ethical, compassionate, evidenced ...
19/05/2026

You don't have to be in crisis mode to seek support.

Every Mother and family deserves ethical, compassionate, evidenced based support from the very beginning.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

05/02/2026

I know all too well how much pressure there is to get some self care in, in Motherhood.
It's like we could self care our way out of Depression and Anxiety and Patriachal systems.🤷‍♀️🥴

But to be fair, there is alot to be said for small things often ✅️

It's in these daily rituals that can help set a bit of a tone for the rest of the day or help create a little break between resettled and feeds to sleep at night.

It reminds us "I'm here too. I deserve this space" .

It takes 2 minutes and you are already engaging in these behaviours, why not make them small mindful self care moments.

Disclaimer: this does not take away from the fact you also deserve that massage girl. Go book it!

Kindly,

Ashleigh

04/02/2026

I've said it before and I will say it again...

You don't have a communication issue
You have an emotional vulnerability issue.

You need scaffolding and safety, not scripts

Kindly,
Ashleigh


14/01/2026

Every single session we discuss assumptions.

Couples get so "familiar" with one another's conflict styles and Protector parts, that they have already predicted the fight and outcomes before they even broach the topic with their partner.

I hear it all the time 👇
"I'm not a mind reader"
followed by
"I know exactly how that will go"
followed by
"I know why they did that"
without ever confirming their assumptions with one another.
It's damaging a couples connection and keeping them stuck in their defensive cycles.

Vulnerability comes from shedding assumptions that you know how the fight will go, that you already know what your partner is thinking, saying, doing and their intention behind it.

How can we expect change if we don't provide an open platform for change. An opportunity for something new to happen.

Creating this space and mapping our conflict cycles to change them around is the work we do in sessions. It isn't a one size fits all, it's careful analysis of how you show up towards and away from one another.

Kindly,
Ashleigh

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