30/05/2026
“This too shall pass”
I know people usually mean well when they say this.
And yes, life moves on, feelings change, the intensity of this will not remain forever.
But often, when someone is deep inside their pain
phrases like this can unintentionally become dismissive instead of comforting.
When someone is struggling they may need presence, not platitudes.
They need someone who can sit beside them in their feelings before trying to move them out of it.
It’s very difficult to see perspective in the pain. And healing doesn’t happen by shaming someone for not moving on fast enough.
It can begin with:
🔹”I can see this really hurts.”
🔹”I understand why this affected you.”
🔹“You are allowed to feel this feeling.”
Emotions are not problems to move past. There are experiences to be felt and understood.
Creating connection with others in their pain reminds them they are not alone, and that their pain will not remain forever. It tells them you are there with them while it hurts.
📷 .sg
