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03/06/2026

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Often, when our hearts are hurt, our first instinct is to close.To protect ourselves.To build walls.To shut down and pus...
27/05/2026

Often, when our hearts are hurt, our first instinct is to close.
To protect ourselves.
To build walls.
To shut down and push away the very thing that caused us pain.

And so often, when someone hurts us, especially a partner, our first instinct is to blame them completely for what we’re feeling.

But sometimes… what hurts us most is not the situation itself, but rather the wound inside of us that the situation touched.

The abandonment wound.
The rejection wound.
The betrayal wound.
The feeling of not being enough.
The fear of failing.
Not being chosen.
Not being safe.
Not being loved.

And those wounds can run deep.

We can blame another person endlessly, but if those wounds were not already living within us, they would not grip us, consume us, and break us open in the way they do.

That doesn’t mean harmful behaviour is okay.
It doesn’t mean we should tolerate disrespect, betrayal, or abuse.
Healthy boundaries matter deeply.

But there is a difference between protecting your peace… and completely closing your heart.

One is wisdom.
The other is fear.

Because when pain arises, we reach a crossroads:
We can run from our wounds…
Or we can face them.

We can numb.
We can harden.
We can say, “Never again. I’ll never open my heart again.”

Or… we can become curious.

Why did this hurt me so deeply?
What is this experience trying to show me?
What part of me is asking to be seen, healed, loved, and brought back home?

The ego says:
“Close the door. Shut down. Never feel this again.”

But the heart whispers:
“Heal. Stay open. There is more love on the other side of this pain.”

Keeping your heart open does not mean allowing people to mistreat you.
It means refusing to let pain turn you cold.
It means refusing to abandon love itself because of what you’ve been through.

You can leave what hurts you and still remain loving.
You can protect yourself and still stay soft.
You can have boundaries and still keep your heart open.

Because love is not weakness.
Love is who you are.

Healing isn’t becoming someone who never gets hurt…
It’s becoming someone who no longer abandons themselves when they do.

13/03/2026

One of the most common patterns I see in relationships is what I call striking back.

Instead of sitting with the pain, feeling it, talking about it, or owning it —
people protect themselves by hurting the other person in back because it’s too painful to sit with themselves. Too vulnerable to share. To weak to let ourselves be seen.

Sarcasm.
Withdrawal.
Sharp words.
Withholding love and affection.
Coldness.
Distance.
Punishment disguised as “boundaries.”

And underneath it all usually isn’t cruelty —
it’s unprocessed pain.

A wound that doesn’t yet know how to stay open without feeling unsafe.

People often ask:
“If someone hurts you back, do they even love you?”

And the honest answer is —
sometimes, yes.

But in that moment they’re not acting from love.
They’re acting from an unconscious place… ego.

Hurting back often comes from something like:
“I don’t know how to express this pain without defending myself.”
or
“I don’t know how to hold this pain because it hurts so much.”

But there’s something important about this dynamic that many people don’t realise:

When the goal becomes hurting back, there is no end to it.

Pain gets passed back and forth.
Wound to wound.
Reaction to reaction.

And if both people are unconscious in that moment, the cycle simply continues —
each person striking back, trying to protect themselves, while the connection slowly turns into a battleground. The pain deepens.

This is why intimacy can’t survive where both people are bracing for impact.

At some point, someone has to become aware enough to see what’s happening.

To realise:
“This is not me.
“This is my wound. My pain. My ego.”

Healing begins the moment someone is brave enough to put their sword down.

To choose love over ego.
Responsibility over reaction.
Expression over punishment.
Vulnerability over blame.

Healing asks something braver:

To feel the hurt without passing it on.
To express pain without using it as a weapon.
To stay when you want to run.
To open when you want to shut down.

Because wounds don’t heal by being transferred.

They heal when they are felt.

When we are open.
Honest.
Speaking from the heart.

Allowing ourselves to be truly seen, felt, and heard.

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