21/08/2026
Calm often starts in the body.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation, or PMR, is a simple, playful way to help children notice when their body is holding stress and practise letting it soften.
When the nervous system shifts into fight or flight, muscles may become tense and ready for action. By gently tightening and then releasing different muscle groups, PMR can provide calming feedback to the central nervous system and help the body recognise that it may be safe to ease out of that protective state.
It helps children notice the difference between a body that is tense and one that is soft and relaxed. Over time, this can build body awareness and give children another way to respond when they notice stress, restlessness or overwhelm beginning to grow.
PMR can also offer a helpful reminder: you are in charge of your body, not the feeling. A feeling may be strong, but the child can still experiment with moving, squeezing, stretching or softening their muscles in ways that support them.
It may be useful after a demanding day, during the transition home, before bedtime or ahead of a stressful event. Like most regulation strategies, it is usually easier to learn when a child is already relatively regulated rather than in the middle of overwhelm.
Keep it short, playful and optional. The goal is not to make a child calm on demand, but to help them recognise tension and discover another way to support their body.