02/08/2026
A child pauses, looks at the shelf, and picks. Not what I would have picked. Not what makes sense to anyone but them.
That pause matters, but it’s not the whole story. The whole session, the whole room, is the transitional space.
Winnicott called it that: a suspended place between imagination and reality, where a child gets to try being someone new, safely, on their own terms. Not just in one choice, but across the whole process.
And control is central to that. Children can’t control much of what happens to them outside the playroom. Inside it, control and agency is returned, session by session, choice by choice.