The Soul Room - Rhonda Khouri

26/03/2026

Clients often ask me what the “payoff” is for staying in the victim archetype. The answer isn’t simple—there are many. Blaming external circumstances can feel safer because it allows us to avoid accountability.

In short SHAME is often at the core of victim mentality.
When we are repressing or carrying a lot of shame, taking responsibility can feel overwhelming. But when we begin to build self-compassion, self-love and self-respect, accountability becomes less confronting —and so does stepping out of the victim mindset.

If you’re ready to step out of shame and move into the light I might be what you’re looking for.
Write Help Me Rhonda in the comments or a DM
( I do not automatically accept all clients. Let’s have a chat to see if you are the right fit for my work).

10/01/2026

We drift through our lives subconsciously repeating patterns without recognising them.
When we drive a car we don’t think about how we need to manoeuvre to drive the car we just do it, we are on auto pilot. Much of our daily life is executed in the same way. When we feel stuck, we are in victim mode and we are not recognising that we are the driver behind the wheel so we blame the car or external circumstances. If you want to change your life, you need to accept that you are the one in control. If you don’t feel in control, you might need help recognising your patterns. This is where therapy can help. I won’t drive for you but I’ll help you see where you are on auto pilot and how you can choose a different path. The choice is yours. It works if you work it. Learn when to go with the flow and when to act and when non action is a trauma response.
I am opening 3 spaces for people who are serious about changing their lives and want to work with me . If you think this might be you then send me a DM. Only hit me up if you’re serious about working on yourself and taking control of your life. It’s not an easy road but it’s one that SO worth taking.

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03/01/2026

If children are shut down or shamed for their emotional state they subconsciously begin to repress their emotions. Over time this leads to a lack of trust in oneself. The child says I am feeling all these things and all these things I am feeling are “wrong” or “unacceptable” therefore I cannot trust how I am feeling, therefore I cannot trust myself.
As an adult this lack of trust manifests as procrastination, depression, anxiety, cycles of shame and self loathing or projection (victim mode).
The key to changing our behaviour patterns is learning to trust ourself again. We do this by Re-parenting our inner child which helps us to feel safe and secure. By sticking to small commitments and boundaries our inner child can have faith in themselves again.
Teaching my clients how to selfheal through reparenting and somatic experiencing is a big part of how I work. There is no shortcut to healing it requires presence and commitment. Are you ready? Limited therapy spots to work one on one with me for 2026. DM me to enquire. I do not automatically accept all clients - working with me is a commitment to your future self. 🙌🏼 Let’s go!

24/10/2025

Meet Sassy. She’s my inner teenager. She’s rebellious for rebellions sake and doesn’t always know what’s good for her but she’s astute as fu*k and knew how to protect me when I was younger and I needed her to keep sleezy wannabes in their place and hungry boys drooling. She was all mixed up and confused toxic feminine traits with self empowerment.
Sassy (a nickname my aunt gave me) later became my nickname and alter ego on internet chat rooms long before they (and the name) was trendy.
These days, when I feel her come out to play I listen to what she’s REALLY telling me. She’s my Scorpio energy (my rising and Lilith sign) and in her light she’s a great detective, grounded, has discernment and kick arse boundaries in her shadow she holds me back with toxic patterns.
You might know your inner child but have you met your inner teenager? Trust me, you want to. Work with me and you’ll see why 😉
It’s Scorpio season baby. Come meet your dark side and bring it into the light.

14/10/2025

24/09/2025

Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s healthy

06/09/2025

For all the parents out there

06/06/2025

If you’re someone who deeply self-reflects, you need to be very aware of something crucial: most people don't. They project. This is an incredibly important awareness to cultivate because you might mistakenly self-reflect on their projections, thinking that they, too, are engaging in honest introspection. You can easily get lost in this confusing loop of self-questioning, often based on people gaslighting you or subtly inducing self-doubt, simply because they are unwilling or unable to turn the mirror toward themselves.

So, before you consider what someone else says to you about yourself, first of all, be absolutely sure that it comes from a person who is not only able to take accountability for themselves, but is also genuinely in the state of mind of trying to understand you, rather than judge. Understand that many people are not willing to confront their own flaws or turn the mirror to themselves. They don't care if they induce self-doubt and mental fog in you, as long as it helps them get away from their own wrong-doing. Not to forget those who know you are someone who self-reflects, and are simply using that very quality against you to manipulate you.

Self-awareness is beautiful, a powerful tool for personal growth. But that being said, external awareness—awareness of others' patterns and intentions—is just as important, if not more so, in order not to fall into other people's toxic traps. This commitment to truth, even when uncomfortable, allows you to live with unfiltered emotions and clarity.

11/05/2025

To all the mothers out there Happy Mother’s Day 🌷
To those feeling heavy today because they miss their mum or their children,
To those who cry because they cannot bear a child or because they’ve lost a child,
To those who never got to experience the beauty of nurture or compassion from their own mother,
May you be held in the belly of our mother - our beloved Gaia.
May we heal and nurture ourselves and each other. For the energy of the mother resides in us all.
I feel you.
I love you beautifuls 💖

Art Credit:
“Maternal Love” (2004) Iranian artist Mitra Shadfar.

21/03/2025

What if truly knowing God meant giving up all your expectations of how your life should be?

What if truly hearing God required completely silencing your mind and surrendering your own will?

Are you truly wanting to know God or do you just want a father figure to magically fix your life?

The biggest problem I see with prominent religions and western “New Age” mysticism is both have built a profile of God based on the Archetypal father or mother with human attributes that have been “perfected” or exaggerated. Reward, Punishment model.

If your only reason for wanting a deeper relationship with God is to make your life easier, better, to solve your problems, end your loneliness or even to feel special (new age entrapment of I’m psychic, I’m chosen) then sorry but you’ll never truly know God.

God is not a Band-Aid.

Excerpt from The Trap of Modern Mysticism, Religion and The New Cage
©️2025 Rhonda Khouri. All rights reserved.

18/03/2025

Attracting calm reciprocal love comes from your own inner peace, self love and of course boundaries - knowing when to walk away.
Staying in a relationship that no longer serves you will keep your body in high alert, you’ll FEEL it. Of course a healthy love can feel boring if you are still in toxic cycles and feeding off your own trauma. Yes you read that correctly- feeding off your own toxic patterns and beliefs. Remember, subconsciously there’s a pay off for staying in victim mode.
So…. If you feel like a victim and you think your partner is the perpetrator and responsible for your unhappiness, you have more self work to do. Contrary to a popular trending belief, talk therapy is a vital part of changing our patterning as much as somatic work which is why I advise you to do both!
So you can either do the work or stay a victim. Hit me up for details on my one on one therapy if you choose change 🙌🏼