Thelo

05/06/2026

05/06/2026

Feelings are something we experience every day and should not be hidden from the world.

We all experience good and bad days and should have the opportunity to express them without feeling judged.

I think this is something young people, even adults, struggle with, I know I did.

However, what happens is that the more you keep inside, the more you struggle to regulate it, and the more it affects your life.

I know I used to carry around a lot of anger, as a lot of young people do, because they're not sure how to express it any other way.

That said, there could be many reasons why this (sharing feelings) is not something they're encouraged to do.

Maybe they don't have adults around them who have been educated in expressing their feelings through words.

Maybe it's an intergenerational thing. My parents and others who came to a new country, their focus wasn't feelings. It was survival.

We may have the resources these days, but every child, every adult is different, and it's starts with trust and understanding.

And if they don't want to tell, just get them to breathe it out.
'I am allowed to feel this way...
'Now I am going to let it go...

Also, expressing how you feel is not weakness, but a strength.

I found boxing and therapy really helped me understand that.

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04/06/2026

Following on from post yesterday, negative thoughts and emotions can create havoc in brains.

It can cripple us with what feels no end in sight.

I've been there! You feel clouded, tense, blocked, hypervigilante, stressed, anxious, angry, sad, and afraid.

And we feel like there is nothing we can do about it.

Especially if your therapist, if you see one, is unavailable.

However, as the explains, there is something you can do.

You can BREATHE IT OUT!

Basically, what you are doing is stimulating the vague nerve (in simple terms, it's an information system, connecting brain to body), which helps lower heart rate, stress, and respiratory symptoms.

I have been this quite regular, especially when i recognise a negative thought or emotion.

Please try it, and if you want, leave a comment.

I'd be interested to see how you feel.

To learn more, you can watch the full episode on YouTube or listen on Spotify.

Thank you for being here from day one.

03/06/2026

In the last couple of weeks, I've been having discussions about imposter syndrome and self-doubt.

How easily we can fall into the trap of believing that we are not worthy or good enough.

Or worse, we don't deserve to be where we are in our careers.

This isn't just individuals in junior positions but those in senior levels as well.

To be honest, this kind of surprised me, but after thinking about it, my question was this.

Why do some of us think this way? And others just give it a crack whatever the outcome.

Is it from childhood?

Bad experiences in the workplace?

Others telling us we're not good enough?

Past traumas?

Whatever the case, this seems to happen a lot, and even to me.

But I feel people are too afraid to admit it, As they may appear to be weak, which obviously isn't the case.

But, someone said to me, "So what? You can't know everything," and even if you make a mistake, or fail, or don't have the answers, it's better to own it than pretend to know it all.

If this is something you're struggling with, I believe i can help. We can talk it out, punch it out, or both.

I offer a 30-minute FREE consultation, be in by , or

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03/06/2026

Trauma and pain can be a challenge for anyone.

For some, it can stop them from moving forward.

For others, it can be a catalyst for taking control of their lives.

In episode 4, Sandy discusses a humans capacity to be resilient, especially children.

He states, 'it's staggering how much you can throw at kids, and they bounce back.'

It's also fear that a lot of the time holds us back from living a full life.

To learn more, you can watch the full episode on YouTube or listen on Spotify.

Thank you for being here from day one.

02/06/2026

When i first started boxing, I was 25 years old, and I had a late bloomer, some would say.

Anyway, at the time, other than the regular classes, I and some other students used to train with an Olympic trainer.

I wasn't sure what I was doing there - yes, self-doubt played a big role, but this guy thought i had potential. That's what kept me there, but then something happened, which made me want to quite.

These sessions were on a Wed night, and the others on Sat, Tues, and Thurs, not that the days matter, but just so i can provide some context.

Every Wednesday, I would go, and every Wednesday, I would get obliterated. The female i was partnered with had a lot more experience, and it showed. She was also the alpha female of the gym, so new meat was allowed.

This particular Wednesday night, she was going extra hard and just wouldn't stop. There was blood, predominantly mine, but the tears didn't come till later. I wasn't about to show weakness. However, as we all know, tears are not weakness. They're just emotions that we've kept locked up, released.

At the end of the session, after most of the people were gone, I announced I'm quoting. WOW! The reaction was not what I expected. My instructor was not happy. Actually, that's an understatement, and he made it very clear.

Something to the effect of, I can't believe you're giving up, but with, what I thought a lot more aggression. Not the ideal, but that was his way. His version of reverse psychology. That's when tears occurred.

Anyway, at the point of the story, I ended up going back. Started to believe in myself a bit more. I became a lot more skilful, and while she hit me, It didn't hurt as much, and I was able to hit back

It's important to recognise that we can be our own worst enemies, especially when self-doubt enters our head.

If you want help in getting rid of that enemy, please contact me via the website www.theloactivetherapy.com